Chivalry...You Know, The Sh*t Ya'll Call Thirsty

For those who don't know just quite what chivalry is or even what the word thirsty means...let me explain:

Thirsty is a slang term that describes the actions of a person who is overly persistent, too eager, or even desperate.

Example:

Boy: "aye...miss...aye...miss lady bit**!...yea, YOU...you look good...let me get ya number?!"

Girl: "uh-uh, you rude as f*** tho! I got a man anyways!"

Boy: "And?!?! He ain't here to be ya BF, so waddup!"

Girl: "boy bye"

Chivalry comes from back in the days, you know, when we had knights and lords, queens and sh*t like that, and it was a system of values that knights HAD to follow (think Game Of Thrones time period). Nowadays, it's a reference to how a man is suppose to act towards a woman:

• holding the door, so that she may enter before him (so he can take a look at that ass)
• holding her chair before he sits down at the table (so he can take a look at that ass)
• wearing a condom, so they can enjoy a night of lust and passion...

ok, so that last one was a joke...but I digress

We often hear, “chivalry is dead!” but that’s not the case. You know what happened...men continued to do the same things to/for women and somewhere along the lines, some men began to go a little overboard with it, thus, creating the term thirsty. It started with opening the car door so she can get in...to opening the zipper to his pants and letting his penis out. It went from, being friendly on social networking sites...to stalking on social networking sites! Some dudes weren't taught the art of chivalry- I get it; I wasn't taught how to cook but I picked the skill up along the way as I got older. If anything, I'm here to help both men AND women with this whole chivalry thing. So grab a seat, something cool to drink, relax because...

*class is in session*

1. "check please":

Paying for dates is a major damn deal! I’ll even go as far as to say that THIS right here is a major deal breaker for (some) women, why? Because if you're interested in getting to know her and you ask her out on a date and the bill comes and you look at her like, "so, you got this right?" Don't be mad if she tosses the water in your face! Unless otherwise stated: you (claps hands) are (claps hands) suppose (class hands) to pay (claps hands) for (claps hands) the date (claps hands, claps hands)! I don’t care if you work retail, a nursing assistant (I know a couple men who are nursing assistants), slangin' McChickens at Mickey Ds, cleaning tables at Ruby Tuesdays, a recent college grad, living at home with your mama, or you drug dealing…them first few initial dates, make sure the only time she go inside her bag is for her phone, I.D. and or the gloss for her lips! Depending on where the dates are, you pay, unless you really ain't got it like that then you can always go dutch (split the bill in half). If she's real about hers, she will understand, but that also means that you date within your means. I will get more into this in the next blog: "She Will Have The Lobster...And I Will Have The Head To Go".

2. "oh, let me get that for ya":

You dudes that don’t hold doors for chicks are stupid! I know some of you hate holding the door for her and then mad other people come right after and either don't say thank you or step all over your shoes but if that is the case: hold the door for her and like the next two people and then just walk the f*** in...ain't nobody got time for that! Any woman that is coming near a door and her and I are approaching that SAME door, but I'm there before her, not only is it common courtesy but it’s the RIGHT thing to do. Now with that being said ladies, if you are at the door before me and you wait for me to open it for you...we both waiting; serious as cancer. Case and point here fellas: if you find yourself at the door before her, just open it...and look at her ass as it walks out; win-win.

3. curb side service:

I do this a lot and usually get looked at like, "ummm...ok?" When you're out and about, it's customary for the woman to walk on the INSIDE, why? Because say a car jumps the curb...you wanna make sure your body is there to catch that car, like the Incredible Hulk (joking). But the point of you walking curb side is to protect her from any danger or hazardous sh*t like a biker, a criminal, a bullet, or maybe even your crazy ex who secretly follows you on Instagram and knows that once you take her to the Thai spot up the block from your house that serves the good drinks, more 9/10 you're taking her home t...you get the point. Nothing says, "OMG, you saved my life from that vicious thug like," "OMG, don't just put the tip in, put the WHOLE thing in me NOW!"

4. "here, you can sit here":

If you're on a train or bus and its crowded and you just so happen to be sitting down…please and I mean, PLEASE offer your seat to that lady that’s standing. Do this for pregnant women, senior citizens, women with babies, etc. Do this even when you're on a date! When I tell you karma works in the weirdest ways, bruh, you never know what that seat can possibly lead to. Word to mommy: gave up my seat on my way to work for this lady with her 4 kids (no lie) at like, 8 in the morning, she was so thankful, when I got into work they had breakfast catered AND lunch! (claps hands) Dead (claps hands) ASS, walked into the staff kitchen like...

4. "she will have the...":

Unless she’s undecided, allow her to order her meal first. If you really want some cool points, you’ll ask her what she’s eating and then proceed to order it for her. Also, if you’re at bar, sitting at a table or whatever, be a gentleman and get yo ass up and get the drinks, unless there’s table service.

5. "...that ass tho...":

Now I know some of you dudes are just THAT eager to sit down and order and spark up a convo but before you do that, do this: PULL OUT THE CHAIR FOR HER! Show her you're a gentleman and not only be nice, but earn some cool points as well. Learn from Obama...check her ass out on the way down *wink*. Also, speaking of seating , whenever you're taking seats at the movies, church, restaurant, or even a concert, the woman is supposed to precede you into the row of seats. So next time ya’ll getting lead to ya’ll seats at IHOP(my favorite place to eat) make sure SHE precedes YOU, this way you can be like...

6. "oh, hey, you're cold?":

If she’s cold, offer your: coat, sweater, cardigan…so she doesn't get hard nipples and feels embarrassed. (I know its summer but if you're by the water or something or a place where its cold, this comes in handy). She hits you wit the, "babe, I'm cold," you can just be like...

7. make an impression:

When you're at the nail salon, just waiting around, offer to help out after she gets her nails/toes done! Not only will she appreciate it but the girls in the salon will as well. They pay good money to look nice, so be nice and offer a helping hand. Hold her bag for her, open her Snapple, hell, feed her lol, point is: be a helping hand. Things like this show you appreciate her outside in front of others...simple things matter most fellas.

8. "wipe me down":

Sex happens, right? Right! Now, w/ that being said, if ya’ll in the heat of the moment and she WANTS you to… “relieve yourself on her” or she's a squitter…make sure AFTER ya'll are done, you clean her up, before yourself. You might be laughing but if the sex is good, she's not gonna want to get up, period. A brotha like me will whip a chick down like Boosie...or maybe like tha homeless guy at the light tryna earn a couple bucks. That’s all ima say on this, moving on...

Lastly,

9. be a gentle-mannn:

Be respectful, be kind, be caring, be on time, call/text when you say you are. If you’re saying “yo babe, ima call you later,” and don’t do it and it becomes a habitual thing…consider yourself NOW in the dog house. You have to be a man of your word…truthfully and honestly speaking. In other words, follow the rules of basic courtesy because “being chivalrous is NOT the same as kissin ass.” (food for thought)

Chivalry is built around common sense but like I say every so often…sometimes common sense, ain't that common. Good morning text aren't necessary nor are they part of being chivalrous but if she likes it, do it, fu** it but let me just make this clear again: sending a good morning text isn't a part of chivalry; period. Ladies: stop buying into these ridiculous societal norms and just live your damn life. Fellas: don't get comfortable with allowing her to text first all the damn time either. How you treat a woman says a lot about you and says a lot more about how you were raised but that's a different topic altogether. Chivalry ain't die tho, so ladies please stop calling these men thirsty the moment he pays you a compliment or does something nice just cause. And fellas stop doing creep shi* like, idk, brushing up against her ass purposely or gazing off into her breast...that's just creep. Be great men and be chivalrous.

@renaissance_brotha_

Is You Dumb Or Nah

*class is in session*

Since I’ve started this website, better yet, since I’ve started blogging, the reception from women has been great! I’m talking, “OMG Anthony, you saved me so much heartache by switching to not giving a f***!” Ok, maybe not that exactly, but you get the point. Even with all the success, I still get those texts or phone calls or emails from women at crazy times like, “I’m sorry to wake you but I just can’t deal! I think my man is cheating and I mean, I checked his emails and there are naked women in there, he got bitches CALLIN at weird times, like, I was givin him head and O-M-G Ant, I seen some chick named Tori calling him at 1...AM...1! What should I do? I-I cant bring myself to leave him alone!”

Bitch is you dumb? Like really…bitch, is you dumb!?

As much as I wanna see women win, too many of you ladies are allowing men to treat you just any ol' way and you seem perfectly fine with it. Ladies, I love ya'll but some of ya'll...ain’t S***! Ya’ll (claps hands) never (claps hands ) learn (claps hands, claps hands)!

No matter how much sh*t these dudes put ya’ll thru, ya'll keep going back for more and more and I know love is strong but lets talk about BEFORE you even fall in love with the guy; is you dumb or nah? A lot of you ladies have a bark that rings loud but a bite that is equivalent to that of a teething child. To all the, “I can’t leave him cuz I love him even tho he’s been doing me wrong since we’ve been dating,” women of the world, this blog is for you.

according to single ass Renee

 

Your girlfriends, yo momma, yo sister(s), yo granny, yo co-workers will all tell you that you can do better but honestly...they're lying to ya ass! You’re in a bad relationship, you’ve been in one for a long period of time and every single time something goes wrong, they break out the lil’ ass violin and spring that, “girl don’t worry about it, you’ll be fine, you can do better” sh*t on you like that's suppose to inspire some change in you; bruh! I’m all for motivation and what not but here’s the thing: you can’t TEACH self worth! You know what fear is? Fear is knowing that the guy that treats you like garbage will one day stop treating you like such and he will leave. When you have self worth and you realize this, you brush it off and go on with your life but when you don't...you wallow in your tears. This applies to women with college degrees, women who collect welfare checks, and every other kind in-between; you’re no different. White, Black, Latino, Asian, Middle Eastern, Native American...you're no different. Every damn Friday or Saturday there’s a female, at home, waiting for her man to get in after being out all night, smelling like liquor, stripper ass, and cheap cologne so she can curse him out and have make up sex! That is her LIFE! “I’m sorry I did you wrong” sex and breakfast in the morning and a few nights of “let me hide my tongue in the crack of your ass” will hold her over until the next argument. Now most don't understand why this happens because a lot of women haven't experienced this (yet). I’m here to tell you this: you havveee to stop giving people credit for knowing their worth; period! I can give you the numbers to a bunch of great men who will treat you like a queen but if yo ass has a ton of baggage, you don’t love yourself enough to allow a man to love you, you have no self worth…what’s the point? By your friends telling you, “you can do better yada yada,” you will go home and STILL text/call the dude that does you wrong on a daily basis! Misery doesn’t only love company…it turns you women ON! What you also gotta think about is if she’s only had a handful of BFs in her life:

• Sean: was her first love but it didn’t last long
• Mark: a rebound to help get over Sean who was ok, but eh
• Keith: college sweetheart who treated her ok but cheated too damn much
• Tony: great guy but...he didn't satisfy her sexually so she cheated and he found out and took her back...

So, she dumps Tony and is now with her current...John:
a combination of all the previous guys she’s ever been with mixed with his own style and personality. He’s mediocre and she knows that but guess what? It sure as hell beats being with those other guys despite the fact that she still gets treated like s***. Settling is what we call this folks.

Honestly, some of you ladies are only as good as the men you’ve actually been with. You take a person who flips burgers and make them a general manager, I mean, sure, to someone who has been a general manager before, that might not mean much but to that regular ol' burger flipping employee? That means the WORLD and then some; same thing goes for these females. He might not be making a lot of money, hell, he might not even be MCM (Man Crush Monday) material but if he is texting her sweet good mornings and chatting with her on the phone at night and calling her pretty, I mean that right there is enough (for some women) to feel like a queen...

HA, how blinded is she!


oh no bitch you stupid

Any woman that can sit there and tell you to your damn face that, “he’s a good liar” or something else along those lines in order to save face from looking stupid, like we don't know what's going on...needs to be shot. That playing victim sh*t is weak. Once you allow him to slide and slide like he’s a damn baseball player with sh*t upon sh*t and and then play victim: you have a problem. I couldn’t see the chalkboard as kid and blamed bad grades on everybody/thing BUT myself and my father whipped MY ass. I didn’t wanna look like little gay Urkel with glasses, so, I never said anything. You know who suffered and who had a sore ass? Me! Just like you women who allow guys to say whatever and do whatever and you KNOW it ain’t right; you suffer, not him. He’s gonna continue to have sex withwhatshername. He’s gonna continue to use your car when you gotta go to school to go chill with his boys and come pick yo ass up late. No one cared if I got a C- in Math because I couldn’t see and no one cares if you marry dumbass Darren.

You know what men are good at:

• Getting mad over sports
• Letting our pride get the best of us
• And manipulating women

There’s not a man alive who hasn’t “tested” their woman. A man will try you, just to see how dumb yo ass is and see what he can and can not get away with. He’ll stop texting, he’ll stop calling, he’ll stay out later and later, he’ll start to flirt with other women more and more, he’ll call you out your name, hell, he’ll even say some off the wall mess about another woman in front of you! If he is successful with getting away with the behavior, it will continue. It’ll go from: double tapping a pic on Instagram and leaving "flirty emojis"…to you bringing it up to him…to him in her DM getting the number…to you "finding" a nude pic of her in his photos…to you bringing it up to him…to him going out with his boys…and you finding out from one of his boy's GF that the boys are actually in Miami for the weekend, tryna convince D. Wade to come to NY…to you bringing it up to him…to him denying everything and calling you crazy…to you two arguing…to you guys having sex…to him doing the same exact sh*t gain a month later…to you finding out and saying nothing.

You might laugh and say that’s not real, but it happens all the damn time and it could very much be your situation right now…but that’s no business of mine.

If you keep looking the other way and settling for make up sex and thinking that will ease the pain; you're stupid. Stevie Wonder is blind, so, he gets a pass but you…YOU?!? You don't get a pass for allowing yourself to be mistreated and blaming him and not blaming yourself! You think by looking the other way, not saying anything that he will eventually hang himself with the rope you've been giving him but boo boo...his ass will take that rope you gave him and hang you and move on to the next one. At some point, you'll decide to do something but he knows how to bring you down from level 10 to a 2 and guess what? You don’t have the ovaries to leave his ass. At this point he doesn’t think you’re dumb- oh noo, he knows it! “I’m not stupid, I know what you’re doing!!! I know you f***in whatshername off of Twitter Brian!” is like telling the bully, “I walk home by myself so if you wanna beat me up, you can,” instead of telling someone about the bullying. Stop letting s**t slide.

and you thought Yvette had it bad...bruh!

 

And why should he!? All that crying, man, you just want someone to feel sorry for that ass. You run crying to him and what...he's gonna magically care? No! Wipe them tears and realize this guy’s actions and words don’t go hand-in-hand. Saying he cares and actually giving a damn are not the same thing, but you don’t understand that. How do you know if someone cares? They show it! If you’re hungry- you get something to eat. You tired- you take a damn nap. Sex, getting your ass ate, some designer bag, and a movie/dinner date will never ever be enough to fix long-term relationship problems; just saying. Now of course he cares about you…he cares if you die! He will continue to dick you down and rub your shoulders and allow you to sleep on his chest after it’s all said and done. A man who shows you respect at all times…is deserving of your love…not just your vagina and mouth. You think because you look good in a selfie, he won't cheat? You think because you suck his penis every damn day, he won't creep? There's more to it...no...there's LEVELS to this relationship sh**! Don't feed me that love ish when love has you miserable. YES, men eff up but on a man who f***s up on a consistent damn basis is not the man for you!

...according to WHO!?!

I’ve seen this on Instagram so much man, it’s just hilarious. I love a woman with confidence but never should that be confused with…idk, ummm, egotistical arrogance. Your ego will keep you single ladies and your ego will keep you in a relationship that should've been done a long damn time ago! You Let Beyoncé tell you that his ass CAN be replaced if and when he f***s up and guess what? He still drinking the OJ and eating up all the pasta noodles with fried hot dogs and using his check to go to the club to buy drinks! This dude has had the free range to do whatever and say whatever to you for years and the threats you come up with get thrown out the window, why? Because the moment you muster up the courage to be Wonder Woman…you’re ass naked getting penis Moon Walked inside of you. Regret losing you? Bitch, he hardly cares that he has you! These men don’t respect you women and you expect one of these dudes to give you a ring…bitch is you dumb?! We can’t control the weather- but we can control who we decide to deal with (cliché), how? OPEN YOUR EYES TO HIS SH*T! You living with a man that doesn't respect you; you're dumb. He gives you penis and not an apology; you're dumb. He cheats on you and you KNOW he's lying when he's telling you no and you let it go till months later and threaten to leave but don't; you're dumb. You giving a dude money and he's using it to do the complete opposite of what he said he would be doing with it and you KEEP giving him money and then complain to him that he's using you; you dumb. He puts his hands on you while you argue because he can't control his temper and you're f***ing him hours later; you're dumb.

...but I digress

Can you do better? Yes. Will you do better? Well, that’s dependent on you hun. T.I. has a song about not wanting mediocre and people are responding to him like, “n****…you married Tiny!” You know how many people settle for mediocre? Plenty! You know how many women settle for men that are half-assed? Plenty! There are plenty of great men that will treat you right, I mean, hell, get ya ass up and go out and enjoy life and mingle and start conversations with the cute guy at the bar or on line at Chiptole! A man will accept your flaws but too many of you ladies have this attitude about you like someone owes you something because of what happened in the past with whatshisface. I’m not paying for the crimes of the last douche, so, you better get ya ass in order before you meet me or be working ya ass off towards doing so because the same behavior will continue: the vicious cycle of you being used and abused. You know what the issue for a lot of you single or in bad relationship/marriage women are: your mindset. You put sh** in your mind and call it truth and its nothing more than bull AND sh**, honestly. You’re worried about everything but checking the man you’re with and that’s why you’re looking stupid to others. You’ve been hurt so bad but with these Instagram posts/memes and Rob Hill/Just Mike/Tony G. got ya ass so caught up in your feelings…you don’t know if you wanna be single or go get a dick to replace the vagina you have. WISE UP LADIES! No man will jump through your window and give you his number; it takes going out. No stop fuc*ing you over; it takes leaving his ass and making him learn the hard way. Part of the reason you can’t do better is because you aren’t willing to work for it. You're too afraid, shy, or prideful to put yourself out there, and would rather deal with lames in your comfort level. Finding a better man is too hard, so stick with the one you got until he tosses you to the side. Even after he moves on, complain about how good he used to treat you as if you suddenly got amnesia when it comes to the nights he had you crying your eyes out. I laugh at you types because ya'll are the MAIN ones tryna offer someone advice on how to do better; bitch, shut ya ass up and check your man. I can write a million blogs and you can read them word for word like (some) of you do now and guess what…

Nothing

@renaissnace_brotha_

All Single Ladies Say "Oowwww"

I haven't taken a break from blogging...I've just been getting a lot of tings together is all.. This tho comes from a reader/supporter who needed advice and I posted the email simply because I feel a lot of people have questioned a lot of what I do, sooo...here you go.

*class is in session*

This will be simple and straight to the point because I don't want to bore anyone and because...

I got something bigger coming! (insert the eyes emoji)

For all the single ladies who somewhat struggle with dating and things of that sort, this for you. If you're in a relationship, hell, this can be for you as well. Either way, I hope this helps.

**********

 

From my perspective and just, I don't know, general thoughts on single women, I feel you must work on yourself, FOR yourself before you even consider dating. What that means is:

Making sure you know what you want in a guy and what you don't want aka what you won't allow.

I've seen a lot of women/girls just date date date and with no purpose at alllll and then get mad at the guy on some, "I let you have my time...and YOU wasted my time!" and the whole time she herself ignored all the signs and said f*** it, let me see what it's hittin for anyway because he makes me laugh and he looks good...

 Sh** like that you can't do!

You also have to be honest with yourself because if you aren't, a guy will sense that and manipulate you how he sees fit! Being honest with who you are is the best thing to do because then you can be completely honestly with what you allow; what you allow says a lot about who you are as a person.

Getting to know your likes and dislikes early on are key for self development and self awareness. You also want to make sure you're actually going out with your girls or even by yourself (as corny as that sounds) and you're talking to guys. Talking/flirting is good, because it allows convo to happen and when convo happens, you get a good sense of what kind of men you attract (Law of Attraction). Basically, whatever energy you put out into the dating world, you will get back. But you can't put half positive/half unsure vibes into the air becauseeee...you'll get a lot of in-between, not only with guys but what you should allow and don't allow.

Dating is good, because it allows you to build with guys and form a friendship rather than just jumping outta the "window" and start dating and you hardly know the guy. Don't do the friends with benefits thing even if you KNOW yourself to not get caught up because it could be that one time it happens...and then what? Or, he might catch feelings and all you wanted was some penis and somebody to watch Walking Dead with, you know. If you're dating, I would also stay away from sex as well, unless it's someone you can see yourself taking it to the next level with because feelings and emotions willlll get attached.

Now as far as places to meet guys...hmmm...I would say...anywhere honestly. There's no one spot were there will be great guys and not so great guys at lol. Like, just get out. It's the summer, the weather is good, lots of free events to do and lots of things to do in general (depending on we're you live). If you honestly want to meet someone, you will, that's all dependent on you and your comfort level because the worse thing they can say is no. If you see a guy looking at you and he hasn't made a move...walk over there and spark a convo. Many times what happens is, women will feel like, "I'm not gonna talk to him, even if we do spend the whole night eye fucking each other! He better be a man and come talk to me!"

Kill yourself!

If you like what you see, talk to him; simple. Stop allowing social media to dictate how you interact with a guy because you will be single and your vagina will decompose (generally speaking). Don't allow your single female friends get in your ear either...most times they've been single for a long damn time or they can't keep a relationship nor can they keep a guy's attention long enough to know what her last name is.

The reality tho:

 

dating is simple...it's our expectations that complicate things.

If you want to know what a man is thinking- hit him up. Yes, I'm fully aware guys aren't the most vocal, but, if you notice that (and I'm speaking to the single ladies) then you give that ish a window period (a time frame where you feel enough is enough) and you let his ass go.

You cant allow guys to get away with elementary bull and then play victim,

If you allow a guy to blow yellow lights...he will eventually speed his ass thru reds and not give two f***s. All this means is, you aren't allowing a guy to waste your: time, energy, and attention (TEA) when there is a guy who will gladly spend it well.

All in all...date! I'm not sure of your age or anything or anything more than what you've explained but I say, date around, keep your options open. Dating should be like a buffet: you try a lil of this and a lil of that and you leave what you don't like on your plate and if you like what you had, you go back for more.

If you have anymore questions, please feel free to hit me up any damn time and I promise you I will hit you back a lot quicker! If you need anything I said further explained, please let me know, I gladly will. But more importantly...thank you for taking the time out to reach out annddd reading the blogs because when I tell you I appreciate it...

I truly do :)

@renaissance_brotha_