Want a Man Wants, Pt. 1

"I don't understand men at all! All they wanna do is play mind games, video games, and most of them only wanna have sex and then disappear!" - says a good majority of woman. Listen: I'm not an expert on men, but as a man, I know what I want! But this isn't about me...this is about what other men want, so, without further ado...

*class is in session*

Men want...a woman who has a connection/relationship with God:
Ok, so Jesus doesn't HAVE to be your bestie but a relationship with God, is something (most) men want. Sure, you can hold him down financially, physically, mentally

BUT

...a woman that prays for, even WITH her man!? Amen! A REAL man will honor and respect you wholeheartedly for your relationship with the Lord...unless the two of you have different views on religion, then that's a totally different case and blog altogether.

Men want...a woman who isn't ALWAYS partying/in the club:
no (hand clap) man (hand clap) wants (hand clap) his (hand clap) woman to be (hand clap) in (hand clap) the (hand clap) club all the damn time!

Now, it's ok to hang out with your homegirls here and there but every weekend tho? If you're the type to party, date a party promoter so y'all can take Instagram selfies, make collages n'sh*t, and spend money you don't really got on bottles you don't really like. The goal of a relationship is to build into something greater and that can NOT be achieved if you're out twerkin to Miley Cyrus and Lil' Wayne every Friday and Saturday night. #TurnYoAssDownForSomething

Men want...a woman with a sense of humor, whose playful:
Be the Gina, to his Martin! You don't have to be hilarious but a woman who has a sense of humor? #Winning! Those who remember the show Martin, remembers that, not only was Gina beautiful, strong, educated, and driven...she was a fool! And YES, those kinda women EXIST! Don't complain about him being a grown ass man who enjoys playing video games; grab a controller and play along, hell, practice when he's not home! Bored? Grab a pillow and pop his in the head; start a pillow fight...you know play fighting always leads into sex! Men love a woman that's playful, plain and simple.

Men want...a woman who has her own and a great sense of self:
Ladies: don't let these weak ass men/n****s trick you into believing you have to be a weaker woman because they aren't secure with who they are! A mam wants a woman who adds to what he has going on in his life already, along with bringing the great things she has to offer and building upon that. Never should you drop all of what you're doing in YOUR life for HIM because if you lose him...what will YOU have? The sexiest thing you as a woman can wear is confidence accompanied by a strong head on you shoulders. Know who YOU are first and foremost. Know your worth as a woman, so I can have something to value.

*Men want...a woman who is mentally mature:
All we want is a woman who can handle her emotions on a mature level, that's all. It's crazy when a man and woman have a misunderstanding over things and the woman shuts down or beings to attack because she lacks the ability to comprehend how to understand a point of view other than their own. Express your feelings boo boo, but don't come at me crazy for what YOU'RE feeling; just express yourself in a real and honest manner. I'm not looking for you to cut me off when I'm talking. I'm not looking for you to be dismissive or raise your tone when you hear something you don't agree with. I'm looking for you to be open minded and be attentive to not only what I have to say but why I'm saying it. How you handle your emotions as a woman, will always be a key factor in a man deciding if he wants to be with you or not on a more serious level.

Men want...a woman who will be open and honest, respectful, and be a team player:
To further my point in the last paragraph: be open with me! Tell me what's going on in the relationship/marriage but don't do it in a nagging way! There are ways to tell me what's on your mind, without me having to guess. Also, honesty is the best policy! Honesty is like Elmer's glue in every relationship/marriage because without it, nothing can truly be held together. No man wants to be with a woman who he feels is dishonest. On top of that, I have to HAVE something to respect right? Self respect is something every man looks for in a woman, contrary to popular belief. Respect doesn't only mean you give it to me...but you have it and give it to yourself! And on top of all of that: teamwork, makes, the, dream, work! I've said it once and I will continue to say it: until you are whole as an individual, a relationship can't work which means a marriage won't come about. Ladies, stop tryna force these men into getting in a relationship when you know good-and-damn-well you aren't over your ex or a past relationship/situationship that didn't work in your favor. We as men look for a woman we can see ourselves grow old with, not grow tired of.

Men want...a woman who can cook:
You don't have to be no Paula Deen, hell, you don't even have to be Rachel Ray but you must be able to do a lil' sumthin' sumthin' in the kitchen. If you can read and follow a recipe, you'll be alll-right! You don't even have to cook all the time either, just cook here and there! For an added bonus...cook with him (keep the relationship exciting). The way to a man's heart is thru his stomach and his...

Come on back tomorrow, for the conclusion of... "What a Man Wants".
And I mean it this time, lol.

8pm Eastern Time!

@renaissance_brotha_