What a Man Wants, pt. 2

If you haven't done so already, check out "What a Man Wants, pt.1".

*class is in session*

Men want...a woman who's attractive:
AND who has confidence! I can be perfectly fine with you just the way you are but I can't make YOU see YOU how I see YOU! Men want a woman who carries herself like a queen from the ankle up and nothing less. Allow me to be frank for a moment but YES, men are attracted to a pretty face and how you look will determine if we want to speak to you or not. It's not shallow, it's honest. "Damn, your personality is pretty as f***! That sh*t got my d*** hard!" Now that's something you will NEVER and I mean NEVER hear from any guy, but what you WILL hear is, "Damn, excuse me beautiful can I talk to you? I'm tryna make you my future wife, like, that body lookin right! You got a man? Oh...how long you been havin that problem?" Now, that last part is for comedy purposes but you get the point. If we're out for a night on the town and you're looking radiant, elegant, just as bad as you wanna be and we as your man see other guys checking you out; THAT SHIT'S A TURN ON! A fat ass, nice breast, curvy hips, luscious lips, all of that sh*t is cool but at the end of the day, when you get old and gray/beauty isn't only defined in the physical form, it's how you maintain yourself that'll keep you lookin different from the norm...*Wale doe*

(Wale didn't say that btw)

Honestly tho...Instagram pics show more than side views.

*Men want...a woman with some smarts:
I love a woman who can challenge me intellectually! One of the things that turns me on MOST about a woman is being able to learn something new from her. I love lips but it's what comes OUT of those lips that speaks to me the most. You can look like Beyonce but be dumb as a brick and then what? Being "bad" isn't enough! We want someone who we can hold a conversation with!

S-u-b-s-t-a-n-c-e!!!

The length and depth of the conversation varies with a woman who we just wanna have sex with vs. a woman we want to get to know, settle down with. Furthering your education is sexy ladies, never let a man tell you different. You wanna go back to school and get another degree or just finish up, a real man will support that and speaking of support...

Men want...a woman who will support them:
I'm not talking about supporting him like his parents or his last GF/wife did with his unrealistic dreams, goals, and aspirations. I'm talking about supporting when his dreams are actually attainable. Supporting his efforts in wanting to do better, and achieving more in life. I'm talking about when he's down and he feels like the world is against him, you being there to help lift him because at times, we as men become weak. Men want to know that: if the world and everybody and everything in it is saying no, you'll be by his side holding him down. All we want is someone who will help us along the journey, that's all.

Men want...a woman with some family values:
Men, want, women, with, some, family, values! What that means is: how you were raised, will say a lot about you as a woman and as a (future) mother. Did your parent(s) cook on Sundays? Did you guys attend church? Did you guys eat at the table and not off in your own rooms? What's your relationship like with your parents!? Better question: what's your relationship like with your dad!? To sum this all up: once we've made the transition from friends to being in a relationship and building upon that and I as a man make the decision to make you my wife, now I need to see if you will be a suitable mother. All of those questions play a key role into making that decision because YES, starting a family should be the main goal at the end of the road and YES, who you are as a woman, as a wife, matters a great deal in my decision on having children with you.

Last but not least...

Men want...sex:
I will make this as raw and as honest as I possibly can: if you're not having sex or giving your man oral, another woman will gladly do the job! We laugh at a show like Scandal but that is the reality for a lot of women in the world today. I'm not saying you have to be on your back or on your knees all the damn time, but a compromise between the two of you needs to be had. Men want sex, so it's your job to provide it for him. Sometimes, after a long, stressful day at work, we don't wanna hear, "babe, how was your day?" Sometimes we wanna hear, "drop your shit, go have a seat...I'm suckin ya d***!" That's it! I don't wanna sit and complain about my day and I know you don't really wanna hear about it, so, just suck his d***. Sex isn't everything, but it is one of the reasons why a guy will stray. You don't have to be an all out freak, but just make sure your man's needs are met in that bedroom!

Every guy is completely different but I'm almost certain if you poll guys on what it is that they want, their list will more than likely pale in comparison to this. This isn't a complete list but it gives you as a woman a general outline of the wants of a man. The wants and needs of the guy that you're currently dealing with will never be the same as the men you've dealt with. It's not that we're afraid of commitment, we're just afraid to commitment to the wrong one! I am a man who knows exactly what I want because after hurting women and being hurt by women so much, trial and error has done me more good than harm. I encourage women to allow men to be men. I'm not saying allow him to put your through bullsh*t, I'm saying hold his ass accountable and check him on his bullsh*t! Know your worth! You don't have to be like Michelle Obama or Scarlett Johansson or Halle Berry; just be you! Self-worth, self-respect, self-love, I don't say this because it makes the blog sound good or for praise...I say it because it's all truth. You give me something to love, honor, respect, appreciate and I will give you all of me and nothing less, only more.

Fellas: am I missing anything?
Ladies: if there's anything that you would like know that you didn't see here, feel free to hit me up at brotharenaissance@gmail.com

@renaissance_brotha_