Maintaining The Romance

I used to think romance was important as a teenage; some flowers, a crappy "I love you" poem", some candy, and dinner & a movie and that was it…funny how times change. You get older and realize just how much that plays a part in your relationship and well into your marriage. Sure, taking your significant other out for dinner and a movie is cool…but that can't be the only thing! Nowadays, it's not about being predictable- it's about being creative. It's not about cliche- it's about putting some effort into whatever it is you're doing for that person. I will admit; we as men will do all this romantic and kind sh*t in the beginning and once we get you…that's it.

Well, I'm glad that a good friend of mine hit me up to tackle just that very problem: the lack of romance amongst the sexes. Not only do women feel that men have strayed away from being romantic, but men feel the same as well (crazy, I know). If you feel that you're alone in the struggle to maintain the romance, think again. Below you will find ways of how to maintain the romance within your relationship/marriage from a woman's perspective, as well as a man's. The guest writer here on A Better Breed Of Man goes by the name of MzCottonCandyKiz (all her material can be found here: MzCottonCandyKiz) and you can also follow her on Instagram (@epiccandiz).

Please take note: anything you notice in the red, is what she's saying and anything in the black, is voiced by myself.

*class is in session*

MzCottonCandyKiz: For me, romance is about creating epic and memorable moments that are long lasting! Now, contrary to the thoughts of the “new” females, the true ladies (such as myself) still very much believe in romance. Unfortunately though, it seems that males where more romantic in their teenage years and then once again, in their 40s: so what happens to all of those years in between (20-39), I mean, do the men just stop...being romantic?

Renaissance Brotha: No, men don't just stop being romantic, ma'am! You mean to tell me that between the ages of 20-40 (20-damn-years) men aren't being romantic? Ludicrous! YES, [some] men DO struggle with the idea of being romantic, but then you have plenty others who are making sure to maintain the romance within their relationship/marriage. In my opinion; romance is about being inventive...being spontaneous! And while you feel that men aren't that romantic, my dear, [some] women aren't stepping up to the plate themselves.

MCCK: Okay, okay you're right, but romance for a woman is the act of her significant other going above and beyond to please her and by please her- I don’t mean just physically either!

Babe give me more than the usual!!! (In my Trey Songz voice).

RB: EXACTLY! Romance is about going above and beyond for your partner and making sure they're happy at the expense of doing something nice, just because. If y'all think y'all the only ones who wanna be romanced- think again.

MCCK: I see what you're saying but how about putting some REAL thought and effort into making us smile fellas! This isn’t just any kind of smile; this smile has a glow to it. Her eyes become glassy and she drifts off into another place just for a minute. It's the kinda smile, that makes her tell all her friends how great you are. This smile...makes her have a great day at work no matter what's been going on.

RB: I wanna be the reason you smile (50 Cent voice)

If smiling is your concern, then you have to set the standard ladies! If being romanced is something you enjoy, then make sure that blueprint is laid from jump. We wanna make you happy, we wanna make you smile, I mean, what man wouldn't want that for his lady! In my opinion, it's all about equal treatment in your relationship/marriage not, "babe take me here because it's romantic, babe do this because it's romantic." Plain and simple: romance should be a two-way street.

MCCK: I agree and romance can/should be expressed in many different ways! Romance is going to a new restaurant and saving some so she can taste how great the food was.

RB: Romance for us is about setting the MOOD (because it's not just about the food, it's the mood that helps to set a romantic scene). Instead of going out for dinner, maybe you can shoot him a text,

"hey honey, I wanted to cook dinner tonight, would you like anything special!? Oh, and pick up some flowers on your way home please."

You're direct and to the point! Just making dinner and sitting in front of a TV gets boring, so, spice that s*** up! You dress up, have some music on, candles lit, bottle of wine chilled...after a long day who wouldn't like that kinda treatment (but not all the time). It's not just the act of cooking dinner, it's what comes along with dinner that we find romantical (not a word but you get my point).

MCCK: Romance is getting her flowers but getting them in her favorite color. Or maybe getting a single rose and putting it on the bed, while she’s in the shower just because before you head out. Sending her flowers to her job is also a nice romantic gesture and I mean come on now, what woman wouldn't want a nice bouquet of flowers and or some Edible Arrangements!

RB: Getting flowers or some Edibles from your man...while at work or just because and it's not a day of significance and they're your favorite color…?

I get it, I get it! Some men don't understand the importance of flowers but I do; they help to lively up the soul and all that's around you. On the flip side of that ladies, how about treating you man to game or a concert! Men (hand clap) like (hand clap) that (hand clap) sh** (hand clap)! Some of you reading this could give a f*** about Carmelo Anthony going against LeBron James or going to a football game or going to see his favorite artist, but we as men love to do sh** like that! Same way ya'll was doing all types of crazy sh*t to see On The Run, we enjoy being live in person. Surprise him with some tickets to a game or a show because at the end of the day, not only does it show that you care about him but you care enough to show interest in what he enjoys.

MCCK: Romance is making dinner and having it ready when she gets home from a hard day of work.

RB: I agree 110%! After a long day of work and/or class and/or having to deal with a child, who wants to come home to have to clean AND cook…

Hell, cooking dinner isn't an issue but to that, I say this- can we get a date thooooo! You might be suckin ya teeth right now like, "what is this fool talking about!?" but I'm serious; take your man on a date and PAY FOR IT! Pick the place, make the reservations, make sure you tell him to get dressed accordingly, and when it's time to place the order, ask him what he wants to eat and when the waitress/waiter comes over to take the order, YOU speak! Not only does it show initiative but that sh*t is sexy as f***! Hell, even feed him the dessert and when you get home you feed him you!

MCCK: And some women do that already but can ya'll put a little more thought into the regular ol' "dinner and a movie" kinda date because that's something I can do with my girls! Instead of the usual, find a Groupon or look online get some great date night ideas at a great price; we don't have to spend a bunch of money to enjoy a night out on the town, just as long as we're spending the time together! Sometimes we wanna hear, “hey babe, tonight let’s do something a little different. Put on those jeans I love to see you in, you know...the ones that make your ass stick out and don't take too long because we're going to paint some pottery.”

RB: And that's a great idea outside of the usual "dinner and a movie" because then it forces us to put some actual thought into the date. An act of romance for us tho- showing you appreciate us. Sex is cool, hell, a watch is nice but how about writing an actual letter and...*wait for it*...actually mailing it to him! F*** a text, f*** an email, f*** posting your "love and appreciate" for him on some social networking site: sit your ass down, write out how you feel and what you appreciate most about him. It's thoughtful and it's genuine. It's SHOWS that you care because sometimes...words convey a better message that actions can't.

MCCK: Romance is waiting until she gets out the shower and as she's drying off, you grab the lotion and rub her body down. This isn’t to lead to sex or anything, but just a genuine rub down.

RB: This is something I agree with wholeheartedly because we too, enjoy a good rub down. After the gym- sure. After a long day at work- you bet ya. Beating the guy's ass who was a little too friendly at the restaurant- rub daddy down! All jokes aside tho, I think it's something that both parties can enjoy because there's nothing like a good body rub...caressing all those areas the sun misses...sensually...taking your time...sh** like that is pleasurable. Massage the stress away ladies and gents!

MCCK: Romance is giving her the hoodie that you normally wear that smells like that cologne she loves.

RB: Smelling him when he is not around; cute but if you thought I wouldn't mention sex in this blog...guess again. I know what you're thinking ladies,

"all you gotta do is: play with his thing till it gets hard, suck on it, then get on top and ride him, say some nasty stuff, and then he cums and that's it!"

WRONG!

...to an extent at least. Any woman can do those things but what separates YOU from the others is HOW you do it! Sure, men like the simplicity of oral, followed by intercourse, but [some] of us men enjoy a good build up every now and then; please AND entertain us! Get some lingerie, put on some music, light some candles, steal one of his shirts and put on some heels and earrings, and then...do a dance for him! You dislike that he's goes to the strip club? Be his stripper! You, put, that, p****, on, him! So many of y'all ladies listened to Destiny's Child "Cater 2 U" and didn't cater! Sex and romance are linked because of the connection it builds between the both of you; get closer, creative, and captivate!

*****

Romance is all about doing something nice because you care about the person, not because you feel forced to. No woman should have to force her man to take her out, but also shouldn't rely on the man to be the only one who has to bare the burden of the romance within the relationship/marriage. The idea is to be spontaneous; the element of surprise goes a long way! If she enjoys receiving flowers- send her ass flowers. She enjoys candlelight- eat breakfast by candlelight. Do something SHE enjoys! The idea is to keep the fire burning so you will never ever have to worry about the next man (or woman) doing so! Affection, attention, and some consideration is all she really wants, believe me, but learn when to and when not to. Too much romance and then you create a monster. Too little and you now you have a partner with one foot in and the other one out. Unsure of when to be romantic; take the "odd day/even day" approach: you take odd days and she takes the even days and two even/odd days out of the month, you have to come up with something romantic for the both of ya'll to do. Sounds cheesy, but I guarantee you it will keep things thriving. Don't be afraid to be cheesy but also make sure EFFORT and THOUGHT goes into whatever it is you come up with! Maintain the romance in your love life fellas or…I will some other man (or woman) will. Maintain the romance in your love life ladies…or some other woman (or man) will.

@renaissance_brotha_

Chivalry...You Know, The Sh*t Ya'll Call Thirsty

For those who don't know just quite what chivalry is or even what the word thirsty means...let me explain:

Thirsty is a slang term that describes the actions of a person who is overly persistent, too eager, or even desperate.

Example:

Boy: "aye...miss...aye...miss lady bit**!...yea, YOU...you look good...let me get ya number?!"

Girl: "uh-uh, you rude as f*** tho! I got a man anyways!"

Boy: "And?!?! He ain't here to be ya BF, so waddup!"

Girl: "boy bye"

Chivalry comes from back in the days, you know, when we had knights and lords, queens and sh*t like that, and it was a system of values that knights HAD to follow (think Game Of Thrones time period). Nowadays, it's a reference to how a man is suppose to act towards a woman:

• holding the door, so that she may enter before him (so he can take a look at that ass)
• holding her chair before he sits down at the table (so he can take a look at that ass)
• wearing a condom, so they can enjoy a night of lust and passion...

ok, so that last one was a joke...but I digress

We often hear, “chivalry is dead!” but that’s not the case. You know what happened...men continued to do the same things to/for women and somewhere along the lines, some men began to go a little overboard with it, thus, creating the term thirsty. It started with opening the car door so she can get in...to opening the zipper to his pants and letting his penis out. It went from, being friendly on social networking sites...to stalking on social networking sites! Some dudes weren't taught the art of chivalry- I get it; I wasn't taught how to cook but I picked the skill up along the way as I got older. If anything, I'm here to help both men AND women with this whole chivalry thing. So grab a seat, something cool to drink, relax because...

*class is in session*

1. "check please":

Paying for dates is a major damn deal! I’ll even go as far as to say that THIS right here is a major deal breaker for (some) women, why? Because if you're interested in getting to know her and you ask her out on a date and the bill comes and you look at her like, "so, you got this right?" Don't be mad if she tosses the water in your face! Unless otherwise stated: you (claps hands) are (claps hands) suppose (class hands) to pay (claps hands) for (claps hands) the date (claps hands, claps hands)! I don’t care if you work retail, a nursing assistant (I know a couple men who are nursing assistants), slangin' McChickens at Mickey Ds, cleaning tables at Ruby Tuesdays, a recent college grad, living at home with your mama, or you drug dealing…them first few initial dates, make sure the only time she go inside her bag is for her phone, I.D. and or the gloss for her lips! Depending on where the dates are, you pay, unless you really ain't got it like that then you can always go dutch (split the bill in half). If she's real about hers, she will understand, but that also means that you date within your means. I will get more into this in the next blog: "She Will Have The Lobster...And I Will Have The Head To Go".

2. "oh, let me get that for ya":

You dudes that don’t hold doors for chicks are stupid! I know some of you hate holding the door for her and then mad other people come right after and either don't say thank you or step all over your shoes but if that is the case: hold the door for her and like the next two people and then just walk the f*** in...ain't nobody got time for that! Any woman that is coming near a door and her and I are approaching that SAME door, but I'm there before her, not only is it common courtesy but it’s the RIGHT thing to do. Now with that being said ladies, if you are at the door before me and you wait for me to open it for you...we both waiting; serious as cancer. Case and point here fellas: if you find yourself at the door before her, just open it...and look at her ass as it walks out; win-win.

3. curb side service:

I do this a lot and usually get looked at like, "ummm...ok?" When you're out and about, it's customary for the woman to walk on the INSIDE, why? Because say a car jumps the curb...you wanna make sure your body is there to catch that car, like the Incredible Hulk (joking). But the point of you walking curb side is to protect her from any danger or hazardous sh*t like a biker, a criminal, a bullet, or maybe even your crazy ex who secretly follows you on Instagram and knows that once you take her to the Thai spot up the block from your house that serves the good drinks, more 9/10 you're taking her home t...you get the point. Nothing says, "OMG, you saved my life from that vicious thug like," "OMG, don't just put the tip in, put the WHOLE thing in me NOW!"

4. "here, you can sit here":

If you're on a train or bus and its crowded and you just so happen to be sitting down…please and I mean, PLEASE offer your seat to that lady that’s standing. Do this for pregnant women, senior citizens, women with babies, etc. Do this even when you're on a date! When I tell you karma works in the weirdest ways, bruh, you never know what that seat can possibly lead to. Word to mommy: gave up my seat on my way to work for this lady with her 4 kids (no lie) at like, 8 in the morning, she was so thankful, when I got into work they had breakfast catered AND lunch! (claps hands) Dead (claps hands) ASS, walked into the staff kitchen like...

4. "she will have the...":

Unless she’s undecided, allow her to order her meal first. If you really want some cool points, you’ll ask her what she’s eating and then proceed to order it for her. Also, if you’re at bar, sitting at a table or whatever, be a gentleman and get yo ass up and get the drinks, unless there’s table service.

5. "...that ass tho...":

Now I know some of you dudes are just THAT eager to sit down and order and spark up a convo but before you do that, do this: PULL OUT THE CHAIR FOR HER! Show her you're a gentleman and not only be nice, but earn some cool points as well. Learn from Obama...check her ass out on the way down *wink*. Also, speaking of seating , whenever you're taking seats at the movies, church, restaurant, or even a concert, the woman is supposed to precede you into the row of seats. So next time ya’ll getting lead to ya’ll seats at IHOP(my favorite place to eat) make sure SHE precedes YOU, this way you can be like...

6. "oh, hey, you're cold?":

If she’s cold, offer your: coat, sweater, cardigan…so she doesn't get hard nipples and feels embarrassed. (I know its summer but if you're by the water or something or a place where its cold, this comes in handy). She hits you wit the, "babe, I'm cold," you can just be like...

7. make an impression:

When you're at the nail salon, just waiting around, offer to help out after she gets her nails/toes done! Not only will she appreciate it but the girls in the salon will as well. They pay good money to look nice, so be nice and offer a helping hand. Hold her bag for her, open her Snapple, hell, feed her lol, point is: be a helping hand. Things like this show you appreciate her outside in front of others...simple things matter most fellas.

8. "wipe me down":

Sex happens, right? Right! Now, w/ that being said, if ya’ll in the heat of the moment and she WANTS you to… “relieve yourself on her” or she's a squitter…make sure AFTER ya'll are done, you clean her up, before yourself. You might be laughing but if the sex is good, she's not gonna want to get up, period. A brotha like me will whip a chick down like Boosie...or maybe like tha homeless guy at the light tryna earn a couple bucks. That’s all ima say on this, moving on...

Lastly,

9. be a gentle-mannn:

Be respectful, be kind, be caring, be on time, call/text when you say you are. If you’re saying “yo babe, ima call you later,” and don’t do it and it becomes a habitual thing…consider yourself NOW in the dog house. You have to be a man of your word…truthfully and honestly speaking. In other words, follow the rules of basic courtesy because “being chivalrous is NOT the same as kissin ass.” (food for thought)

Chivalry is built around common sense but like I say every so often…sometimes common sense, ain't that common. Good morning text aren't necessary nor are they part of being chivalrous but if she likes it, do it, fu** it but let me just make this clear again: sending a good morning text isn't a part of chivalry; period. Ladies: stop buying into these ridiculous societal norms and just live your damn life. Fellas: don't get comfortable with allowing her to text first all the damn time either. How you treat a woman says a lot about you and says a lot more about how you were raised but that's a different topic altogether. Chivalry ain't die tho, so ladies please stop calling these men thirsty the moment he pays you a compliment or does something nice just cause. And fellas stop doing creep shi* like, idk, brushing up against her ass purposely or gazing off into her breast...that's just creep. Be great men and be chivalrous.

@renaissance_brotha_

So I Have This Friend...Who Cums Quick

I usually get women who hit me up about men who ejaculate too quick during sex but when a dude KiK'd awhile back (a private messenger app)

...I was taken aback just a lil,

Trevor: "Hey brush, umm, my girl Diane said you give good advice?"
Me: "Oh...you mean @TastiiieCakes?"
Trevor: "Yea, that's all me bruh"
Me: "Oh ok, yea yea, I'm good I guess, I don't toot my own honor"
Trevor: 'Lol, yea man I feel you bruh, too many dudes be cocky about junk ya feel me, you a modest dude from what I hear"
Me: "My head big already, so I can't be out here making it bigger. What can I help you with champ"
Trevor: "Alright, I love my girl, but, I have this issue...and I know I don't know you and I hope if you decide to use this in a blog bruh you respect me and not use my name"
Me: "You have my word"
Trevor: "I cum quick bruh n that sh*t be too *motherf***in good bruh I can't help but to do it. I cheated on her, to see if it was her, and the 4 other girls I f***ed bruh...it happened mad times bruh!"
Me: "Wait wait, 4????"
Trevor: "4 bruh. I pill'em bruh! I just don't know what to do bruh. Doc said i'm fine brush but idk, maybe you know something I don't brush you look like a Urkel kinda dude like no offense bruh"
Me: "I hear it all the time. But I'll make a blog because a lot of females hit me up"
Trevor: "fa who brush brush you 100 in my book, just don't put me or wifey name in it bruh and make that sh*t funny bruh"

So I Have This Friend...who cums quick

Over the years, many women have reached out to me to voice their complaints about men....who can't keep it up long enough for them to enjoy sex more than 10 minutes because they ejaculate too quick. Now, this might be surprising to some, but, it's a reality for many. You know how hard it is for a man to NOT slide in it and feel that warmth, that wetness, to feel that special bond between vagina and penis, that tightness and not wanna bust off quick? Sh*t is enough to make a brotha go crayyyy-zay (Old Dirty Bastard voice)! Myself...I know what its like to, you know, be in some p**** that's so damn good that when you think you're about to give her that NBA type d***...you come up short like high school JV players against the Varsity team.

I know some of you ladies will say, "well, I know my stuff is GOOD, so if he cum too quick, that's ok, I understand,"

b****, no you don't.

The moment it happens more than twice, you're on the phone with one of your girls and you're singing like Alicia Keys about his short cummings (pun all the way intended). Maybe you do have the holy grail of vagina or maybe it's because he hasn't gotten any in a long time or maybe he really does have a medical issue but whatever the case is; ain't nobody got time for that!

I'm joking,

but Trevor-Trev, here are a few ways you can prevent yourself from "shooting up the playground too quick"

1) tell her ass to get on t-t-t-top:

What's sexier than seeing her ride?

A BACON SANDWICH WITH SCRAMBLED EGG WHITES SWISS CHEESE AND KETCHUP!

Okay, I'm joking...slightly...but nothing is quite sexier than a woman who will straddle you from dusk to dawn! I like when a woman rides, why?
-she gets to feel all of this D!
-I get to play with her breast...while she feels all of this D!
-I get to see her eyes roll to the back of her head (ROLL'EM *Kevin Hart voice*)
-lastly...when I don't want her to ride anymore, I can just tell her to crawl up and put that p**** on my face- BOOM!

Naw, if I know I'm finna nut in the missionary position, I just act like I'm being aggressive and tell her some sh** like, "get on top...and ride daddy dick!" It's about control and when you give her control...boooy, she'll think she's Queen Elizabeth or...

Hustle & Flow her ass

You let her ride you and more times than none, she'll cum, hell, talk dirty to her while she's on top, play with her clit even! You do this because when she cums, you can cum right after, "baby I'm cumin too!!!"

*and they both came, happily, ever after*

2) grandma fist pumpin naked with heels on:
An ugly image right? Exactly! Wanna hold that nut in just a lil bit longer: think of random sh*t! This one time, I swear to you, the moment I went inside...I had to back out and look at her like,

WTF!!!

Haha, ya'll might be laughing but dead-ass, this was me! Sometimes we as men underestimate just how good the vagina just might be, so, we go in like, "yeaaaa, I'm bout to put in that work," and 5 minutes later its like, "...so you want water? I got water." You have to think of different sh*t to keep your mind off of what is going on! I say, listen to your iPod...actually, don't listen to me because I did that and she got hers off and till this day I haven't seen her since...I mean, she said it was good...but that was many moons ago. Fellas: get your mind OUT of the vagina, focus, so you can stay IN, the vagina. Puppies, old folks, that homeless couple that always ask you for money, the annoying fat guy at work that always ask you annoying ass questions, your uncle who thinks all the girls you bring to the family BBQs like him, but don't, or...think dead people...that always helps.

3) you dip'it then you flip:
Another great technique? Take it out and flip it gently on her clit! Not only will this buy you some time but it will also please her as well. When you're having sex (oral or intercourse), focusing on the clit is ideal!!! When you're giving her oral, you focus on the clit. When you're hittin it from the back, reach around and rub on the clit. Take it out and just start playing with it right on her vagina. Sh** is sexy to her, I mean, no one wants you to tease them, but, this will buy you some much needed time like I said. You catch your breath, hell, rub on her clit with your fingers just a lil, dip them in her, taste it, all that freak sh**, and then you just slide back in...slowly. You go from about to climax, to heightening hers in a matter of mins, but, if this doesn't work...

*** 4) eat itttt (eat it) eat itttt (eat it)/think you bout to nut, just eatttt it:
And this my friend, is how I got great...at oral pleasure! Joking...eating pudding and cupped snacks is. The moment you think you're about to nut, I don't care if she's screaming, "don't stop...ooh, baby, ohh, baby!" yo ass better stop what you're doing and go downtown and enjoy her! Yes, I advocate for, "if he's about to cum too quick, give a lil head to slow down that climax," head. You kidding me? If you're a woman who doesn't enjoy gettin the d*** and then gettin head in-between, then you haven't had sex with me the right guy yet. Sure, I know being at the height of your orgasm and then having it taken away from you is beyond annoying...but for head? I think of it like a fast break in basketball: sure, D. Wade (Miami Heat player) can just do a spin move or crossover the defender and slam it home but he knows that LeBron's ass (Miami Heat player) is RIGHT behind him, so, he's gonna double check and see exactly where he is and then alley-oop it to him; win-win for the whole team.

If you're wondering about the analogy, here's the breakdown:

D. Wade is your penis Trev, you figure, cumin too quick would just be selfish (scoring off of the fast break), so, you wanna give the assist to your homie LeBron (your tongue) so he can shine too!

Moral of the story here: if you think you're about to nut too fast, eat her ass...I mean vagina, eat her vagina.

5) meditate x yoga x exercise more:
You might laugh but doctors will suggest this because of the health benefits associated with all three. Mediate, and you are at peace with the world. In terms of sex? You're refocusing your attention elsewhere so you not releasing yourself all inside of her just yet. Yoga is good for the body and blood circulation. In terms of sex? You learn some positions and you end up putting her ass to SLEEP! Exercising is just all around great for you as you may already know. In terms of sex? You discipline yourself, get some strength, and pick her ass up and do it like Mimi and Nikko...in the shower...cause the rest of that sex tape was wiggdty-wack!

and all this sh*t don't work:

JUST (claps hands) CUM (claps hands, claps hands)

There's no sense in stressing your body out in trying to keep that in, so, just let it out. I hope this has helped you more than it has made you laugh because if it's actually a serious problem, you really need to revisit a doctor and see what's up. Some women will tell you that if she loves you, sex isn't a factor...bull AND sh**; no woman will stay with a guy who can't treat the p**** better than Kanye West takes care of Kanye West! No woman wants...

"a quick, pumper"

I know how it gets tho...you're f***ing and it's just so good, you pleasing her and she's loving it...but in the back of your mind, you're trying hard NOT to nut too quick...so your nut, turns into a Trey Songz song,

"I don't wanna leeeeeeave, but I gotta go right nooooow/I'll be back (up) befooooore, you know it"

or whatever he was crying about.

@Renaissance_Brotha_

Bronocchio & The Boy Who Cried Thot

I'm often asked why I don't write blogs about men and yada yada yada and honestly, the answer is simple:

I, don't, give, a sh*t, about, these, dudes!

I mean in a sense I do, but really...I don't be caring.

The part of me that actually cares is the responsibility we as men have when dealing with women and the lack of accountability we as men hold ourselves to. Men are strong creatures that will hold sh** down and whip another dude's as the moment he gets outta line, but the moment it comes down to telling his woman the truth...

Yup, *Mike Woodson face* (former head coach of the New York Knicks...you know, that team with Melo on it...you know, Lala Anthony's husband).

Men, lieee! Now, of course you ladies knew this already but I figured I'd touch on it since I seem to touch on just about everything else.

I(ve) lied. I'm not saying I'm out here lying and sh** to women about sh** but the lies I hear that some men are telling women and getting away with; ridiculous! I will say this: women are better liars; always have, always will be. That's nothing to glorify but too many men are under the impression that the lies they tell, trump that of a woman...nah bruh, nah. The reason why I'm not lying to women no more...

I remember when Left Eye from TLC (RIP) set this n**** clothes on fire in that tub and that tub caught fire and that house caught fire and his house burneddddd down to the ground! I'm also reminded of the time of this song by R&B artist, Jazmine Sullivan, where she talked about busting the windows outta some n**** car and even tho my black ass don't own a car (yet), when I do get a car...I don't even want her weave strands being left in my car let alone a f***ing brick or some next s***! And lastly, I'm reminded of Lorena Bobbit...

I mean, she literally cut his wee-wee off...OFF!

But without further ado

*class is in session*

My D*** Big Or Nah:

I mean, sure, some dudes are packing but the ones who are usually bragging? That's a form of a deep seeded insecurity and they feel, "If I can convince her that I got a big ol' d***...she's gonna wanna f***!"

So what he do? Send you a d*** pic!

All that sh** he was talking and his sh** ain't even longer than the toothpick you get in the mall food court when they give you a sample of the food?!?! Oh hell nah! 7/10 of you dudes who claim to be packing, ain't packing! (some) Females will stroke a man's ego and tell him that it's "decent" and that sh*t ain't even a-ok! Dudes get gassed thinking they "Sweet D*ck Willie* but in reality...they be coming up short…like the collection plate with a cheap congregation. If 1 chick says you were a great, the next 1 says you were good, and the next 3 say you were, “iight,” there’s a problem; 1 great + 1 good + 3 iight’s = (doing calculations)…a fair and last time I checked, saying someone is fair in the sex department, wasn’t a good look. But ya’ll take that 1 chick who said ya’ll was great and go out in the world and tell all kinda lies; “I beat the p**** up, up, up,” when in all actuality, “you ain't even make her nut, nut, nut, nut, nut!" Just be honest! 8/10, she'll still let you have sex and if you know what you're doing, you'll get to do so over and over again.

We Gotta Good Thing Or Nah:

"I like you, I really do...but I don't want a relationship right now." - said by 94.29% of men

Peep the scenario:

Mike & Marsha are cool. They like each other. One day, she invites him over for a Netflix night...you know, that kinda night where you guys eat and watch half the movie because the other half of the movie you're in her so deep, you can feel her stomach! Marsha says,

“I’m not ready to be committed, solo, what’s gonna happen between us? I just got outta a bad relationship and to be honest...I'm just not ready.”

“I mean, I like you, but I’m not ready for a serious relationship right now…but we can be friends,” replies Mike…

WHAAT!! *Trey Songz voice*

This is a common lie guys tell females A LOT, when they just wanna have sex with no strings attached. Mike knew what he was doing. He knew what he was saying. He knew Marsha wanted him to take it down like Ray J did Kim K! All in all, he was running game like LeBron is about to do to these Bobcats! When Marsha stated, “…I’m not ready for a commitment,” this really meant, "I’m DTF (down to f___), only if you’re willing to commit!" At that point, this gave Mike the, “beat it up, even tho I’m not in a relationship” pass. At the end of the day, this will be a lie guys continue to tell…ladies, just be smart, use your words wisely because not being direct will get you hurt.

I Been Busy Or Nah:

BEST SH*T EVEEEER!

I'm joking, but no one is that damn busy where they cant send a text or call for a minute or two. Like seriously? We live in time where people live with their phones in their hands and guys? Sure, he might actually be busy but with school, work, his kids, running errands, and things of that nature, but honestly, there are so many opportunities to let someone you're talking to/married to/going out with know you're thinking about them. I've had this problem but, this ain't the blog for that to talk about women and their bullish*t, but no man is truly THAT busy; it's bs ladies. (some) Dudes be too busy...GETTING busy' respect it, check it, or neglect it (you know my motto). No dude wants to come off as being thirsty, so how is he gonna act? The exact opposite. “I’ve been too busy even for myself,” is utter malarkey, think about it; Monday – Friday evening I’ve been busy, (so I say), 6PM rolls around and you hit me up and all of a sudden, NOW I’m not busy? HA! Ladies, be careful, once you become “open” he becomes open, #ThinkAboutIt.

I Got Dem Js Or Nah:
I know a lot of dudes lying about basic sh*t like...Jordans because they think a woman will be like, "oh you aint got no damn degree but you got a Masters in Jordanology!" I know grown ass women who want matching sneakers with their man and matching f***ing clothes and matching f****ing Gucci belts and it's sickening! But what grown man lies about dressing nice? Like, this shouldn't even be a topic but dead ass it's crazy! Thanks to Instagram, dudes are able to search for a pic, crop it, add a filter, add some corny ass caption, and post it like it's theirs. You tell her you got all these Steve Harvey suits and Burberry ties and she comes to your house searching around and now she's looking like...

When you're in your mid 20s and up still lying about materialistic sh*t like that will impress a WOMAN...bruh, you need to look in the mirror...

and smash ya face.

Ima Leave Her For You Or Nah:
People think that side pieces are this new age thing anddd...they are not:
“Woman to Woman," - Betty Wright (my favorite)

"As We Lay" - Shirley Murdock 

"Friend of Mine" - Kelly Price

“Can’t Be the Other Woman" - Changing Faces

A man will fill your head up with this bs about, "leaving his main woman for you," and months down the line...it's the same f***ing sh*t! These songs illustrate just that: these dudes ain't loyal! Come and tell Renaissance Brotha how good that pu*** is that it'll make him leave the woman who washes his clothes, irons, cooks, cleans up his car, gives him money, sucks and f***s him whenever, wherever without fear of being seen and someone telling...

...I'll wait...

Oh yea b*tch, it ain't happening. This lie is great because he gets to keep manipulating you and he gets to go home to his girl like everything is cool. Oh, you thought he was doing something when he double tapped on your pic? Haaa! You MUST be on the same thing Frank Ocean was on while he was messing with the, “model broad w/ the Hollywood smileee,” to think that this bold face lie holds any kinda truth. Ladies:

DON’T (claps hands) GIVE HIM (claps hands) THE (claps hands) TIME OF DAY, (claps hands) UNTIL (claps hands) THE (claps hands) MAIN CHICK (claps hands) IS NO LONGER IN THE WAY (claps hands 2x)!!! 

I Got Kids...Or Nah:

Ahhh, the world we live in where men openly lie or decide to omit info about that they're fathers to women they decide to talk, outta fear of scaring her off or...because he just doesn't give a f***! The moment you treat your children like a hand in a game of Spades where your partner ask you, "how many you got homie," and you're like this...

shoot yourself. 

We're talking kids here...kids...not your baby mama situation...kids *A.I. voice*

So many women are understanding of a man who has kids because that helps them get some kinda understanding as to who you are and what you're about and what kinda man you will be (in a sense) to her/for her. A man who don't take care of his kids, more times than none won't take care of you REGARDLESS of the situation (I am willing to debate this one, even tho I am not a father). If he lying about his kids, sh*t, he might be lying about the girl who always drops them off who ain't his baby moms...

which brings me to my last point

She’s Just a Friend Or Nah:
I have many female friends, hell, I'm still best friends with one of my ex GF, why? Because we were FRIENDS before we got into a relationship. Now I know many women are gonna be like, "what the f*** do ya'll still need to be friends for?" When you're an adult, this crazy thing called maturity gets factored in and you're able to hold convos and go out and chill. Some dudes I know and some dudes you'll meet ladies aren't "just friends" with some of their female friends...they're f***ing them...and when I say f*cking, I mean, he's sticking his penis inside of her, from missionary, doggy, and reverse cowgirl. Because of Instagram, females are lead to believe that any female who tends to leave an emoji face or some kinda of comment that suggest more than the relationship actually is...that the dude is f***ing her. I'm here to say that's wrong...sometimes. Dudes will tell you this and erase the comment so fast, *phew*. When you ask him and he starts to smile, giggle, chuckle even...he's giving her the D in, and or around her mouth! This doesn't apply to new couples or "just talking/getting to know" because ya'll don't have sh"t established, so have a seat elsewhere. This applies to couple with some years because a dude will lie in your face while having sex, mid stroke, I'm talking while you're moaning and mutter to you that he is not f***ing the girl who ALWAYS takes ya'll order at Red Lobster. What you ladies need to do is to gather evidence, approach his ass, ask him, and if he denies, present it to him and then you slap his punk ass and then you find that b**** and ask her to do it for the Vine...while you cock your gun back!

*We at A Better Breed Of Man do not support gun violence and no adult problem should be handled with such brash decisions*

I'm not even gonna come up with some fancy ass ending: just don't lie fellas. I know it's hard because the truth hurts, hell, life hurts, point is, the one you love don't deserve that. Lie to your boss. Lie to the cop about to write you a ticket. Don't lie to your woman...KARMA SUCKS, TRUST ME I KNOW! We, have, to, do, BETTER guys and I mean that. If it has to start with one, so be it, but, let it be a step forward and not a step to the side or backwards. Be about progression…you’ll get more outta life. 

@Renaissance_Brotha_

S.H.O.R.T.I.E.S.

S.H.O.R.T.I.E.S =

Seriously,
Height
Only
Reminds
The
Intellectual
&
Educated
*of*
Shallowness

Ok, so I added an "o"...sue me but how great is that acronym! But before you start getting all defensive, know this:

1) I'm like 5'6...ish
2) if you don't believe me, take ya ass to Home Depot or Lowes (you know, the place where you can buy the Mimi shower rods at), find the aisle where the measuring tapes are, come measure me (no pun intended), and get an answer, to your question.
3) cool your jets because you're about to read some real sh*t!

I digress,

*class is in session*

Peep the scenario:
Rita and Candice are best friends. Candice, has a man, whom she loves and has been with for over 3 yrs. Rita on the other hand: runs thru men like newborn babies do diapers! Rita, tired of dealing with “dudes who aint bout sh**,” often calls Candice to vent about the shortage of good men. Candice, frustrated, decides to tell Rita about Jon: a co-worker she often talks to during her lunch break.

Jon: a recent college school grad with a M.A. in Dental Sciences, outgoing, personable, under 700 followers on Instagram, has often been called, “the light skin Morris Chestnut,” cooks a mean mac & cheese with some garlic mashed potatoes, and fried chicken, has his own place, pays his own rent/bills, loves reality tv on his down time, and single...gets set up on a blind date with Rita.

Candice, having talked to Rita before she goes out on her date, forgot to disclose one thing

…his height.

Rita, standing tall at 5’1" (5’6" in heels) swore to NEVER date a man under 6 foot! When Rita finds out that Jon is 5’8", she is no longer interested. Candice, mad as all hell, decides to hook Rita up with Maggie: aspiring model/IHOP waitress, which results in a “happy ending".

This scenario may sound crazy but trust me, it's real! How many times have you heard,

“Oh damn, he got it going on like that?!
Wait, what you say girl...he’s what?!?!
How tall!?!?"
*dial tone*

I feel a lot women have irrational, illogical, and idiotic height preferences these days, especially the ones that are short as sh**! The average height for a man is 5’9 BUT for some odd reason, to ladies, that’s still considered short! Short dudes (myself included) who are shorter than the average, get thrown waaay under the proverbial short yellow bus more times than none. The fact that a woman can say in one instance, “I’m not dating him because he looks like he could be my lil brother,” and then turn around say, “I rather date a dude who hustles & keeps me on his IG," to me, that is utterly f****** absurd!

Now I know you're laughing but this way of thinking is also associated with:
•If I’m 6'5" and a jerk to people: then I’m just a jerk.
•If I’m 5'5" and I’m a jerk to people: then I have Napoleon Complex.
•If I’m 6'5" driving a truck: then that's ok.
•If I’m 5'5" driving a truck: then I’m overcompensating.

Exactly...what the F***!

The women who are fully self-aware, still take part in this tom-f***ery, saying things like, "girl I know I’m wrong, but how’s it gonna look when I bring my midget man to the family BBQ and they get him confused for one of my students?". Yup, I know you're laughing, but just imagine if the tables were turned and we as men went around saying, “man, I know I’m wrong for saying this, but aint it gonna look weird when I bring that big b**** to the family BBQ and she eats all the damn food? Now my auntie lookin at me like I did sumthin wrong!”

Shallow, s***! 

The same females that indict men on charges for being too picky/superficial, are the same ones that attend mass services at Holy Double Standard I’ll Pass on The Short Men Community Baptist Church, are shallow-super duper-ficial ass females that need to plank off the Empire State building. Do I honestly care that a female isn’t going pick me over a tall dude like fat kids, Asians, and nerds are picked last for dodge ball? Yes, just a little! But I care because I'm quite sure (outside of my height) ima qualified candidate to be some woman's future baby daddy/side piece/MCM (man crush monday)/King/BF/husband or whatever.

What makes the situation even funnier is that some women will get all Bill Nye The Science Guy and say sh*t like, "a tall man? Honey I needs one! I need to feel like safe, secure, like I'm in a Snuggie when I'm in his arms...not a hand towel (making reference to being with a short man)." Average height for a woman is 5’4...5-flippin-4! Now, for those who wear heels, hell, kudos to you, I love me a woman in some heels; nothing is sexier! But when you're not in heels and yo ass is short, I mean to the point where I can rest my chin on yo forehead, you have no damn right to call me nor any other dude that's taller than you, short. I understand the importance of physical attraction, and I’m sure those who are reading this will remind me of that as well but unless you're already tall (5'8" and up) you can't be out here being picky when your dad stayed with your mama and her ass was wearing weave since Jim Crow days and he STILL ain't see her natural hair!

Your preference is taller men, why? Because you're afraid of what your friends are gonna say about you when they see you out and about with a man who is either slightly shorter or your height? You wanna feel secure? Oh, you WANT a man that's tall? How about HAVING a man that will "stand tall" in the face of adversity! Spare me with the heels sh** because no secure man will even think twice and say some sh** like, "heels? I mean, you sure you wanna be that much taller than me babe, I mean, we only going to Red Lobster!" Noooooo, a real man isn't gonna care! Unless you're tall already, that height preference makes you shallow - there, I said it. I understand your preference is that of your own, but if you not that tall, yo ass don't need to be that choosy. You're attracted to men with some height, I get it. You wanna be able to look up at him, I get it. A guys preference for titts and ass is just that...titts and ass, not, "oh babe, make sure those titties don't pop out while you're drinking your daiquiri!"

Who gives a f*** about yo preference! (French Montana voice)

If you're dating a man who cares about height...don't waste your time, energy, nor attention because 8/10, he's gonna bring that sh*t up continuously. Now I like tall chicks, I would date one in a heartbeat, just like I would date a short one because the only few things that matter to me is: how great her personality is, is she educated, will she compliment me, and will she let me eat her p****, the way Niko did Mimi! So you damn right I’m mad when I get rejected by tall ass Lisa Leslie with the 38D breast, Buffie booty, pretty feet, and smile that out shine the sun. I also get mad when ol’ brown skin Kelly Rowland with the curly natural hair and the booty that look like two apples in her jeans tell me, “na chocolate…I’ll pass!” when we're virtually the same F***ING HEIGHT! You're wiling to pass up a good man because you can't look up at him and eye fu** him? Please, get ya life! Don't say, "oh, you're saying that because you're short," no, I'm saying that because height (unless you're already tall) doesn't matter. You know how many times I've been curved by taller women because they didn't feel secure (yup, I'm pretty sure a few of you are reading this and will hit me up and ask)? Many! If I don't care about my height, why should you? 

-signed, every short man in America!

I'm completely understanding of preference but if you're not tall...why be so picky? Do women not admire confidence in a man?

Lemme hear what you gotta say

@renaissance_brotha_

Fumbles & Interceptions

Before I start, just a few things:

• chivalry has been around for, idk, forever! So with that being said: a guy (because this seems to be an issue [some] women have with [some] men) texting you "good morning" is NOT chivalry; it's just a kind gesture.
• communication is a two way street: not a one way or a dead end; #ThinkAboutIt
•keep your relationship problems/issues off of social networking sites...we don't care about'em! If its a cry for attention you want...hit up the person you're in the relationship with! The moment you post "x y z" someone is gonna chime in with "a b c" and you gonna be a-n-g-r-y.
•if you're near 30 or in your 30s...stop acting like you're in your early 20s/mid 20s; men and women. All the stubbornness, sense of entitlement, faking interest, so on and so forth will only get you put on that "Summer Jam" screen f****ng around, period.

*class is in session*

Let me tell you right now that this blog will focus on the mistakes we as men make in relationships; nothing more nothing less. I as a man have made tons of mistakes which is why my ex is my ex but I have learned from those mistakes and I would like to believe I am a better man for it.

To say that women are to blame for ALL relationship issues, is absurd. To say that there WON'T be bumps along the way, is ridiculous. To say that they have this virtual market where you can buy hair, clothes, diet supplements, weed, henny coladas, food, and damn near a spouse and we call this place Instagram...is down right ludicrous!

But I digress

We as men get too comfortable early in the relationship and forget that consistency is key. We forget that: whatever we did to win you over, should be done to keep you there as well. If we get you to let your guard down, we're content and that...is where we f*** up! So without further ado, here are some relationship mistakes us as guys make...

Ok...So Now What:
We meet the girl, get to know her, date, get to know her some more, date more, f***, date even more, f*** some more, get into a relationship, send flowers randomly,do a bunch of romantic sh*t, listen to her complain about how much she hates working at Victoria Secret on weekends, we cuddle up and watch Bad Girls Club when we'd rather watch a blind person change a baby's diaper in a snow storm, I mean, we do all this stuff and then...we fall flat. We're caring, affectionate, honest, and open in the beginning, thinking that because we've, "won her heart" if you will, we can kick our feet up; negative.

Fellas, the worst thing you can do is slack off. She kept you at a distance to get a better understanding of you, you won her over, now you're the one being distant and you're mad because she's starting to grow distant? Bruh! Once you push her to that point of no return, it'll be late night R&B mixed with crying, wishing you can get that ol thang back! The same attention you gave her in the beginning, keep that consistent throughout the relationship.

I Can See Myself With You, Like...Forever:
On one side of the coin: you'll get the guy who is afraid of commitment and on the other side of that coin: you'll get the guy who will let you know, "I can see me spending my life with you," only after knowing you a few months! "Yea, I can see you being my queen! We'd make some good lookin babies. Plus, moms is talkin about grandkids.

Wait a min, wait a min - Kevin Hart voice.

For some females, that's enough to change the number, change the Twitter name, deactivate the FB, and start a whole new Instagram! Fellas, take it eaassy! Forever tho? Forever is a mighty long time to spend with a person you've only known for 2 months, 2 weeks, and 4 days. Pump ya brakes. Let time take its course and if it's meant to be, it will be.

Another Again/..That's It?:
First few months we're like ANIMALS! You can't keep us from jumping on top you any opportunity we get,

In the mirror while you're doing your hair/in the shower while you're applying Nair/by the cabinets where the dishes go/in back row of the movie theaters, on the low

After some months pass, females are left asking, "is that it...?". Some dudes get into relationships and think minimal sex is cool and don't realize and what happens is that, weeks go by, and we haven't even considered to have sex because subconsciously, them weeks really feel like only a few days. Contrary to popular belief, sex is a major deal in most relationships (I stand by that last sentence). Now on the flip side of that you have dudes that want it too much (yes, I said too much). For some females who work, go to school, have to come home cook and clean...sex can be the last thing on her mind. I know you read that but seriously, think about that for a minute or two. It's not that she doesn't want sex, it's just, she doesn't want it all the time and what happens is that because we as men don't understand, we take that as, "oh this b**** wanna act up and not f***? Cool, let me go f*** wit a side jawn!"

Bruh!

Learn to compromise! period, point, blank!

Attention Deficit:

One of the things I know to be certain is that when you pay lil attention to your partner...your partner will give her attention elsewhere. It's like we're there physically but mentally, we've checked out. I'm not saying, quit your job, diss ya homeboys, or spend less time with your family just to be all up, under her now, but ignoring her? Will be the quickest way to have every Big Sean, Justin Timberlake, Rick Ross, Trey Songz, Lil' Mama in the face, look-a-like at her door wanting to "do it for the Vine" inside her...and trust me...she will let 'em do it.  The sad thing about it is, she'll actually consider entertaining them because you have now created what I like to call, "The Attention Void". Don't let it get to a point where you begin to lose sight of who she is and the reasons you're with her. Either you find that necessary balance that all relationships need or find yourself arguing with some dude that looks like her celebrity man crush.

I'll takeee, "backbone" for 500 Alex:
Dude + no backbone = a "welcome home" mat. Your woman will treat you like a welcome mat when you become too relaxed in your relationship. F*** all that submission sh*t...BE A MAN! These women want m-e-n, not a damn dog! Yet sadly, some men believe that the only way they can keep a woman around is by doubling as her pet, and agreeing with everything that she says. Big damn mistake buddy...big mistake! She'll start to feel this sort of, "entitlement", to make you do whatever, feel whatever, act however, wherever, when you don't stand up for yourself and you become a "yes man":

"Yes dear, I'll cut my hair even though I cut it last week."
"Yes babe, we can have sex, even tho my leg hurts from getting dunked on by Terry at the gym."
"Yea babe, your mother can come visit, even tho when she brings that damn dog that likes to piss all over the couch."

The ladies from my job always tell me, "Ant-nee (Anthony w/ a Jamaican dialect), we want a big, strong man, not a lickkle dog.". Case and point: ladies want a man who will stand firm beside them and not quiver underneath them...

Treadmillship:
Treadmill + relationship = treadmillship. How many of you have been or are currently in, a relationship that feel similar to a treadmill? Time sees to go by and by but certain things seem to remain the same. (some) Females hate that stagnant feeling in regards to relationships, which is why ultimatums come up when things get to a standstill:

"Either, (hands clap) you (hands clap) get (hands clap) ya sh*t together or (hands clap) I'm (hands clap) though (hands clap, hands clap) through!"

or
"Listen, we've been dating for 5 years now and the convo of engagement hasn't even come up yet...what do you want me to do? Because I can and I won't wait forever you know..."

I mean, the last one is a lil' over exaggerated, but, you get the point.

The biggest mistake we can make as guys is thinking that every thing is mashed potatoes and gravy, with the relationship stuck with no direction.

Here's the thing...

I feel we as guys need to communicate better because with that, we open up more doors for opportunities to grow together, or, grow apart. Mistakes will happen, I mean, sh*t, what relationship won't encounter some stumbles along the way? The goal is to push forward! Make sure you have a direction in which you want the two of you to go in. Have an understanding of self because as a man...if you don't have an understanding of self, there's no way you will be mentally ready to be the nigga/man/king whatever, for any female out here. Realize your mistakes, compromise, be HONEST not only with her but with yourself because if you're not honest with who you are...you think she'll take you seriously?

Nah, the answer to that is nah. Don't let the best thing slip away...because you wanna be a di**, trust me, I know.

@Renaissance_Brotha_

Thank Me Later, Take Care, Nothin Was The Same...

*The following content is for mature audiences only...viewer discretion is advised*

When it comes to sex…

Women, love, that, rough, sh*t! I mean, anything that will help the orgasm experience to be THAT much greater? Women are for it! Choking? During sex?! A win-win fellas. Now, I'm not saying choke the sh*t outta her like Ike did Tina...unless she's into that kinda thing, then, hey, do you but at least get a feel of what it is that she likes. I'm sure a lot of you men are reading this, struggle with "when and how to choke" but don't be alarmed; I'm here for you. So, grab a pen, some paper, and please, pay close attention…

*class is in session*

I am in no way shape or form some sort of sex-pert but I do know a little somethin somethin about what it is that females enjoy, when it comes to sex. First and foremost: women love dominance! Not just in how you carry yourself in the outside world but how that translates in the bedroom as well! They want a man who will take charge, sh*t, not just in the relationship but during sex as well! Submission! Women love to be submissive! Women don't want some ol' Harry Potter kinda dude, tellin them to take the d***! They want that 50 Shades of Grey kinda lovin! They wanna hear…

"Bend that ass over (slaps on ass)! Don't run, just take it!"

"I said touch me? Put your hands up there and don't move'em...matter fact, hold them legs!"

Not,

"What position you wanna do next?"
"Too fast babe, too fast I'm bout to cum...slow down."

#AintNobodyGotTimeForThat

There's an art into sex choking. First off, don't just grab the s*** outta her neck. Never should you just, grab her by the neck like she owe you money; be gentle, at first. Let me be the first to tell you: there's a big difference between coming across as being sexy and rough and coming across as a wrestler or a Lifetime movie rapist; don't rape the p***y my man. Don't rag doll the p****! A lot of you men get in the p**** and go ape sh*t right off the back and think that's that s*** that will satisfy her; wrong. You think just grabbing her by her neck and shoving your penis in her, it'll get her wet??? It won't, it'll hurt...or maybe she'll like it...point is: take it easy mon! Yes, you DO wanna grab her neck with your hand(s), BUT, while doing so, use your thumb AND your fingers and squeeze (do it from the side more so than the front because she'll end up choking if you press too hard). Now of course you can adjust depending on how she likes it, but don't go over the top right out the gate. If you're having a hard time deciding, read her body.

*a woman's body will tell you all you need to know other than her verbalizing it when, it comes to bedroom activities*

Women love that passionate sh*t but they also love that rough sh*t as well. Try kissing her and have one hand on her ass and the other around her neck. Or, you can have one hand around neck, and whisper some s*** in her ear like,

"You gon let me taste you right? Take them panties off..so you can feed me…"

I love doing that sh*t Women love that s***!
Once you've gotten how to choke her down pact, try moves like…

Grippin Grain:
Lay her down on her back. Whisper in her ear (I say this because it's good to paint a picture...women love pictures). Kiss her from her ears, to her neck, to her shoulders, to the middle of her chest, to her breast, to her nipples (spend a lil time there), down her stomach, and as your doing that, run your fingers around her clit and the inside of her lips, and crawl your fingers up her stomach to her nipples, fondle them, then up to her neck, and now you should be eating her...while choking her at the same time, but lightly. Its like, grippin the steering wheel: not too hard and not to light either. If you want: eat her out and keep one hand around her neck and the other on her breast or run your fingers around her mouth, let her suck on them. If you can't do that, try this…

The Ike;
Ladies (claps hands) love (claps hands) that (claps hands) rough (claps hands) s*** (claps hands, claps hands)! When is the last time you f***ed her against a wall? Probably never or in a real long time but no worries; Ike Turner her ass. Sometimes you just gotta grab her ass up, kiss her, and just f**k her like a porn star...women love to be porn stars for their men! Remember how Ike had Tina against the fish tank? Well, that was rape but what you wanna do is pin her ass up against a wall or turn her around and slide it in slow, kiss on her while you're doing it and...just stroke. I would say, stroke for a few minutes, with your hands placed around her waist (if it's from the back) or on her breast (if its from the front and she's at an angle). Now you increase the speed but I want you to go harder, this way, things can begin to intensify. Talk to her too,

"how does the d*** feel,"

"are you enjoying the d***,"

"oh, you like that huh,"

"who else you f***in,"

"I told you stop wit all those ass selfies on IG, didn't I...didn't I,"

"when you making that lasagna again,"

s*** like that. Now, gently wrap your hand around her neck and look in her eyes (it she's facing you) or have her look back at you, as you're stroking her deeper and deeper. If she cums, hell, tell her to lick it off your d***...make her choke on the d*** (another great form of choking).

*Arch Your Back, Point Your Toes:
I put a star next to this one because it's…pretty damn important.

You see how you had her laying down, while eating her out, and then you switched to having her against the wall…now you wanna bend her ass the f*** over…and go deep! Its all about - tran-si-tions. For this position: you wanna have her bend over, arch her back, and make sure you go down and taste it, before you slide in…real men eat it before they beat it Start off stroking at a normal speed. You wanna gradually build up your speed and make the strokes deeper and long and harder. 8/10, she'll be off in her own world thinking about me for Valentines Day how good it feels. Now, you wanna pick up the speed a lil more and grab her hair (if she has none or isn't a fan of it, bypass). As you're doing that, you can either:

A) slap her ass, at the same damn time
B) grip her by the waist, at the same damn time
C) play with her breast, at the same damn time

D) grab her by the shoulder and thrust harder

take you pick.

Whichever you decide, just make sure multiple actions are going on. Now, move your way from her hair to her neck. I say, grip by the waist and just f*** her harder...and harder...and harder, while applying some pressure around her neck. If you wanted them Jordans or to go to strip club and she was against it before, this would be the BEST time to ask,

You: "you gon get them Jordans right...right!?!"
Her: "oooooo, size 8, size 8! Yes baby, YES!"
You: "and, I'm, goin, to, the, CLUB, too (as you give it to her harder)!"
Her: "daddy do what you want! Take my car if you want, s***!"

The point is…give her that d*** like you playing for the NBA Championship; that LeBron James d***!

And last but not least,

Missionary Press:
F*** all that, letting her get a rest sh*t! You really wanna make her have an "outer body experience"? Tell her to switch positions and lay down on her back, eat her out for a few minutes, tease her, and then...slide in, gently. F*** her...and f*** her some more...f*** her harder, and in the midst of all this, put both hands around her neck. You don't wanna squeeze too tight just yet, you wanna ease your way into it. As you're grippin her neck, talk dirty to her (I'll let you decide upon what to say) and just start stroking harder and harder. Make sure to loosen the grip up here and there but make sure some pressure is around her neck...shuttin her ass up! If you want, hold one of her legs up to your shoulder and angle yourself inward, while maintaining the pressure on her neck. The thrusting from that d*** and the neck pressure - *yasssss*

Have her look at YOU while you f***ing her! Make her spread them legs and if she if she drop 'em, you go HARDER!

Fellas, the idea isn't to choke her every damn time you have sex, sex choking is reserved for when you have lil arguments or when you feeling extra frisky. She start to talking about what she seen on IG…you run up on her, and say,

"listen b****, take them panties the f*** off and bend over…wait, wait, lick this d*** first!"

Wanna show her you care, choke her. That timid sh*t is for the weak when it comes to sex. If you been giving her the D for a long time and eating it and she can't cum, you choking her MIGHT be the key to her going to that next level...

All in all, you need to give her that Drake album experience

Leave her So Far Gone, then tell her Thank Me Later and to Take Care, and I promise you…Nothin Was The Same!

@renaissance_brotha_