Moan, Stretch, Cum, Let It Go

The language and content of this entire piece is raw and uncut and if you are sensitive, I highly suggest you do not read,

like, at all...

deadass.

*****

You ever just look at somebody and be like, DAMN...I wonder what you fuck like!? For me, it happens often. There are just some women who just look like, well...they look like they can take a good dick! Not to take away from the fact that they're probably amazing in other areas of their lives but yea, some just look like they can take a good dick...

for about an hour or 2.

Now, don't get all in your feelings and come at me with that, "omg, you're a sexist pig...a womanizer...misogynist!" jargon because the moment a picture some appealing ass dude gets posted somewhere, with a dick print or with his shirt off, (some of) you ladies get your panties in a knot and start confessing all the nasty s*** you would do to him! But I ain't here to judge you, just like I hope you ain't here to judge me but if you are, who cares.

I digress

I'm not gonna lie to you...I love sex. I love a great mental connection and all but I really enjoy, bending a woman over eating the entire soul and every single middle school memory, from her vagina. Or maybe even just a nice and simple choke n' stroke- who knows. Point of the matter is: I love sex and I love doing different positions. Positions that'll have the body shaking and yearning for more. Positions that'll make it feel as if there's an earthquake happening in the pelvic region. Positions...that'll have you laid out across the bed like a damn starfish. Now today's class is dedicated to some positions, that I like and I hope some of you will like as well. Maybe you've tried them, maybe you haven't but if you haven't, I suggest you do!

*class is in session*

Legs On Shoulders:

There's something sexy about a woman's legs resting on my shoulders, I don't know what it is, but it just does something to me. Maybe because I like legs...who knows. Ladies, lay on your back and put either one of your legs on his shoulders or both, it's up to you. By doing this, your vagina will become tighter and will allow him to hit that G-G-G-spot better. If you want, you can even place a pillow underneath your lower back to give you an added lift, choice is yours. Let him start off slow and then pick up the pace. As he begins to go faster, have him lean in while holding your leg(s) or you can hold'em yourself. As he continues to go faster, he can ease up and hold your leg and push it forward (only if you're flexible). When that leg is pushed slightly forward and he long stroking you deeeeep, bihh, ain't no, "ba-ba-bae stop," because in our head, you saying stop but all we thinking is:

The reason this position is great...he can hit your spot and if you enjoy cummin together, you can do so. Sh**, you can also get that good ol' choke n' stroke done too...not the kinda choke like when you eating a dry ass biscuit, the kind where you can barely hear yourself moaning but you can feel him all up in you.

P**** Pon Di Face:

Always check with the dude beforehand because if you go climbing him like Spider-Man does buildings and you say, "well, Renaissance Brotha SAID it was ok..." and he come looking for me on some crazy mess...your dude, will be outta commission for a bit, so, yea, ask first. You can do this either facing him or in the reverse cowgirl position (I suggest doing both ways to be honest). Don't be aggressive starting off either, let the anticipation build up. If you're facing him: straddle his face and have him stick out his tongue and just dip...and bring it back up...dip...and bring it back up...and dip. Fellas, allow her to get comfortable and then you wrap your arms around her thighs. Ladies, grip his head and just sit there and let him do his thing. Fellas, suck on her lips but also allow your tongue to go in and out at the same time. Now if you do it in the reverse, I suggest getting on your tippy toes ladies and just ride his face. Bounce up and down! Wine your waist, grind on his face, I mean...we men love that sh**! The reason this position is great...it secretly gives men the power to dictate the orgasm. I'm a firm believer in talking sh** during sex and when you have a mouth full a pu***, it may be hard but you will have your moments where you can say things like,

"you like that sh**..."

"you like the way I suck that clit..."

"feed me that pu***..."

"cum in my mouth...

Because when you talking that sh** and you eating it right...it will bring about a very pleasurable orgasm altogether. Also, play with her nipples, lick and rub on the clit while you're eating, smack her ass even...keep it sexy.

That's Swahili For Doggy-style:

Doggy-style might be one of the top rated positions when it comes to sex. It's pleasurable to both parties and it's also an ego booster. A guy thrusting a chick from the back, all hard and fast or a woman throwing it back while looking back...it just does something to one's ego within the moment. I love it when her back is arched and...I'm deep in it. I love it when her face is down and her ass is up...and I'm deep in it. Her back is arched, I got that left leg up, just stroking away...sh** is better than the way they described heaven! Fellas, fellas, felllaaass...don't get her in this position and start off all fast: take (hand clap) yo (hand clap) time (hand clap, hand clap)! You gotta tease her a little bit. Slide it in nice and gentle and pull it out slow; that sh** will drive her crazy! As soon as you see her reaching her arm to the back to pull you closer, slap it away on some, "don't touch me or ima fuck your harder!" WOMEN LOVE THAT SHIT! Just keep sliding it in and out for a couple of minutes, get it all wet, hell, rub it on her clit even, don't be afraid to take control. After awhile, you start to build up the momentum and you can go as fast/slow as you like. Grip her waist, hold onto her shoulders, you know, basic sh** at first. She start moaning more, grab her arms, pull'em back and you fu** her harder. The reason this position is great...you can get your choke n' stroke on! I'm not telling you to Ike Turner choke her, just: get a nice little grip around her neck and stroke her! Slap her ass while you're doing it! Another reason why this position is great...I'm almost 94% sure this and missionary are the two positions that women get pregnant in the most! Ima be honest with you; if we in missionary and you looking me in the eyes, witcho pretty ass or you throwin it back, biting on that lip and moan "f***"...I'm not pulling out, like, at all. So, you better cut that sh** out or we will be up in Zales, ring shopping and deciding baby names because you will be stuck with me.

Let Her Ride:

Sometimes...I just want to be submissive. I'd be a liar if I said otherwise and frankly...I'm not in the business of lying to you. A woman on top is quite sexy, especially if she knows what she's doing. I know for some it can be awkward with all that eye contact but once you get passed all that, everything else is a go. Ladies, get him him to lay down and relax,

"bae, put your hands behind your head,"

is what you tell him and if he moves say,

"bae don't move or ima f*** you harder!"

GUYS LIKE THAT SHIT! There are times when we want you to be all cute and whatnot but then there are other times when we want you to ride us like a Kentucky Derby horse. Lean back and hold his knees while you ride him. Place your hands in his chest as you go up and down. Go down slow...come up fast or vice versa. Stay at the top and only come down 3/4 of the way and then go back up; any way you want to ride him is completely up to you. Get on the balls of your toes, grab your own breast and lick your nipples, sh**, be sexy! Tell his ass to keep his eyes on you while you riding that d***. Fellas, if you don't want to just lie there; grab her by the waist and fuck her back! That upward motion will hit her spot and her legs will get weaker by the min and that's when you tell her,

"turn that ass around...and ride me!"

Reverse cowgirl is perfect for women who love hearing the sound of her ass clappin. It's also great for women who enjoy twerkin on the d***. It's also perfect for dudes who love ass. What's better than looking at a nice ass and watching your penis go in...and out...in...and out and hearing her moan,

"smack my ass daddy! That pu*** feel good, don't it babe!?"

That sh** right there is probably one of the best things, we as men enjoy hearing during sex. More importantly ladies, you're in control! If you wanna hula hoop wine on the D, you can. You wanna bounce that booty like a basketball on the D, you can. You wanna, "cause my best friend finnaaaaa, she finnaaaaa (ohhhh)" twerk on the D, be my guessst! The reason this position is great...it never takes her that long to cum, if you got the right "equipment" and if you know what you're doing. Plus, women who like being in control basically hold the key, to the D! If you get him to moan during sex...you own his damn soul. Anytime he tells you he's about to cum ladies and tries to push you away: ease up a little bit and then quickly tighten the p**** and shift your weight into your hips and keep riding him...his punk ass won't go nowhere.

Edge Of The Bed:

If he pulls you to the edge of the bed, I can almost guarantee you 9 months later you will be in the hospital giving birth. I kid but seriously...you get pulled to the edge of the bed and it's a wrap! There's truly something sexy about it that, I don't even think scientist have managed to figure out just why. I love it! Grab you by the legs and just pull you away and watch the sheets underneath you get all fu**ed up- sexy. Spreading your legs and telling you play with your pu*** for me, I mean, how could one NOT marvel at such a sight! Fellas, get her to the edge of the bed, not to where she's more off than on the bed but to where she's balanced good enough so you can do some work. Don't even slide in her (yet) start by eating her. Tell her hold her legs and literally, just lick on the clit. Don't do NOTHING else- lick on the clit, ONLY!!! Do that for a few minutes and THEN you slide in because at this point, she'll be tired of holding her own legs so, you can hold'em for her. Slide it in, slow...I mean reaaal slow and take it out and slap it on her p****; don't even question me, just do it! Then you wanna slide all the way in and go to work. The great thing about doing all that is...you can put her right on her side (you decide) and hold one leg up, while the other remains flat and just, pump hard and fast. The reason this position is great...she won't have ANY control as to what's going on and if you stroking it good and you can hold that leg up and you can play with the clit

she just might squirt...

which is never a bad thing.

Listen, I know that was a lot to take in right but the beauty of sex is that when it's done right, I mean, not decent, I mean RIGHT...two people are left with smiles on their faces and the world is a better place. I encourage everyone to enjoy sex, safely. Yes, use condoms! If you have a partner, don't be afraid to take their ass to the clinic to get tested. If you have a new partner and you know that you're not a fan of using condoms...TAKE THEIR ASS TO THE CLINIC or make them show their results- I'm deadass when I say that. Too many people are having unprotected sex and catching a bunch of shit and passing it along like Chris Paul to Blake Griffin and in no way shape or form is that sh** cool! Just because a person doesn't LOOK like they have something, means sh**! Use protection and get tested, I promise you, it's really painless and easy and will keep you safe out here. I know sex feels way better without a jimmy hat but fellas, you don't wanna be in some p**** one day and a few weeks later your crotch is itchy and you doing the whip & nae nae to your johnson. Ladies, I know brown skin with the good teeth and full beard looks good but he can have a some sh** that'll have your whole vagina in the toilet swimming like Michael Phelps. I know light skin with the nice eyes or the dark skin dude with dreads got a d*** that'll have you praising Allah but you gotta stop allowing these men to go in raw and leaving your box with a filter on it (take your pick). I know this wasn't your typical ending but it has to be said because if one of you ladies burn me or give me some shit I can't get rid of...I'm getting you fired from your job, evicted, selling your shoes, cutting the front panel of your panties out, tossing your car keys, blowing up your car, leaving dog doodoo in from of your parents house, leaking your nudes to Baller Alert, and flushing your make-up and recording that sh**! Be safe!

Do you have any favorite positions? If so, what are they and why.

@renaissance_brotha_

Love Thy Queen

I'm not perfect. I will never, ever claim to be perfect. I don't claim to know it all; I just claim to know what I know and speak on that. I'm not speaking on, How To Maintain Your Marriage After Year 5 because I've never been married. If you see me write about it, you better believe I have experience with what is being said! I think it's important to say all of this because it allows you, as the reader, to have a very clear understanding of WHY I go so hard, in the manner that I do:

WE NEED TO HAVE MORE HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS THAT TRANSITION INTO RELATIONSHIPS, THAT CONTINUE TO BUILD UPON THAT EXISTING FRIENDSHIP! Period!

I digress

I've been in countless relationships where I've fuc*** up. Yes, I am man enough to admit that without hesitation: I've fu**** up in every single one of my relationships! I'm not saying I'm the reason we've ended...I'm just admitting to you, as the reader, that Renaissance Brotha (not Man) has done some shit in his past relationships, that he...I, am not happy/proud about. Now, with that being said I can also admit that, there have been tons of things I have done right! I mean, no one stays with someone for years just because the d*** is that good, I mean, I would hope not but, yea...that wasn't the case because my D ain't s***!

I digress, again

Sometimes, we get caught up in trying to take care of the weeds so much, that we forget to smell and enjoy the roses.

"Renaissance Brotha!"

"Yes, you over there"

"Well, what do you mean by that?"

*class is in session*

Sometimes, we get caught up in trying to take care of the weeds so much, that we forget to smell and enjoy the roses. I'm saying it again because I want you to fully understand what I'm saying and WHY I'm saying it but, we shall touch on that later.

From social networks, the media, your mother, your grandmother, your best friend whose been single since who knows when, to magazine articles, all these different things/persons will advise ladies on how they should treat and care for and love a man. Some of them make valid points but right now, here today, I wanna speak on the opposite: how fellas should treat their queen/woman.

Yes...how we should treat our queen/woman!

This isn't just for the men within the Black community, this is speaking to men of all races, color, creeds, religions, gangs, socioeconomic status, so on and so forth. So pay attention to message and suspend the personal judgement you may have, for the messenger.

Love thy QUEEN

I'm here to tell you that if a woman tells you that words don't mean a thing...then why do they love compliments so damn much!? YES, actions speak louder than words but words play a major part in how we view those actions. Compliment her! Tell her she looks good. Tell her you appreciate her all that she does. Tell her thank you, for the sh*t she does, for YOU! Show her you appreciate her! Ok, I'm not saying do the following every damn week or month or every few months but, try it, at least once (depending on the length of your relationship)

Have her call her out of work and pamper her, the entire, daaay! I'm talking about from morning to night, you plan an entire day dedicated to her and not another soul. Hell, if you even wanna give her the money from the time she missed at work, do it!

I say that because we have to find new ways of maintaining the relationship we have with our partner. You wanna do things that are comfortable with you but also that she'll appreciate as well. A foot rub won't kill ya. A full body massage won't kill ya. Head on the side of the highway won't kill ya...unless the cops spot you guys, then...you know...they might might kill ya. The point of me saying all of this, is to love her in a way that works best for Y-O-U! Be patient with her. Sometimes things won't materialize at a pace of your liking...and that's ok. Just know that: if it's meant to happen, it's meant to happen; there's never a need to rush things within your relationship, especially because it's a never ending building process. Also, don't sit there and throw in her face all the things you do/did for her- she knows what you do/did, she was/is present for it! I had made the mistake of saying, "well you should be happy I cook for you...it's not like any other dude you had did!" And for that, I was deadass wrong. From that I learned; we do things (at least in my opinion) out the kindness of our heart because we love our partners. We have to get back to loving our women, with a pure heart.

Love Thyself, For Your Queen

I know a lot of women that let themselves gooooooo, once they get into a relationship! Like: stop eating good, do whatever with their hair/make-up, say f*** the gym, and all the rest of that sh** but I also know, a lot of dudes who do the same! Some of ya'll don't clean up your place, won't clean out the car, don't get a haircut as often, don't groom "downstairs", dodge the gym, and so on and so forth. Fellas- don't do that. I don't know which OG told you, sh** like that was cool but your lady...she ain't got time for it! Have some pride in how you look!!! We as men, pride ourselves on how our women should look like this or that but never go look in the mirror and hold ourselves to such a high standard. I myself will always admit, that I'm not the tallest, I'm not the funniest, I don't have a bunch of abs, I'm not the smartest and that may be the same for you as well. What works for me is that I know who I am and I will never, ever, ever, everrrrrr let a soul get a chance to tell me anything different! We as men have to hold ourselves to some kinda fu***** standard; it is ok to have standards, fellas. Insecurities and pride are two of the BIGGEST contributing factors, as to why men can't/don't maintain healthy relationships. I don't need statistics from USA Today or some Harvard University scientist to back me up here. If you sit and talk to a man long enough, what you will get is typically the same thing,

"I didn't feel like doing x y z"

"I just couldn't trust her blah blah blah"

"I didn't feel like I was the right man yada yada"

The above examples all speak to who a man is on the inside! Men: deal with them insecurities and put that pride to the side for a better YOU! And don't rebuttal me with that bullsh**, "it's easier said than done" because we are creatures of action- less excuses and more moves!

Feed, Thy Queen

Cook for her. I'm not just saying that because I love to cook, I'm saying that because men like me who DO cook, will offer her a plate of some shit that will have her second guessing why she's even with your ass! I kid, slightly. We as men know LeBron's stats from his rookie year but can't take the time to read a f***ing recipe!? Geeeeeet outta here! 

You might laugh at the above but at least it shows the person tried. I learned to cook because I loved women and because of Dr. Seuss. Green Eggs and Ham is my favorite book (of all time) and I figured, well, if I learn how to cook some creative sh** like that, maybe, just maybe, the ladies will love me! 

Eventually they did. All I'm saying is that, it won't hurt to cook her up a meal. Not every day or every other day but maybe once a week. You don't have to be a damn chef, but cooking her a meal or even helping her, hell, maybe just doing it TOGETHER, shows you at least give a damn! Women (hand clap) love (hand clap) to eat (hand clap, hand clap)! It won't kill you to cook for your queen.

Sex, Thy Queen

(If you're celibate or don't believe in sex before marriage, then skip this one)

I'm not even gonna sugar coat this one or pu***foot: be on point. Women enjoy sex just as much as men, if not, moreeee- not up for a debate and I ain't got the statistics for this one either. You gotta know what you're doing even before you get her in the bed. Sexting works. Send her some sexy ass pictures. A di** pic or some provocative sh** like that aren't only reserved for women. Verbally stimulating her throughout the day works too:

"You know I wanna see you throw that ass back on this d*** in them heels you wore 3 Fridays go, right?!"

"I can't wait to slide my tongue all the way inside of you later...so how's your day?"

You say things like that because mentally, it helps her prepare for what's to come later. Also, don't forget foreplay! Don't just stimulate her mind...stimulate her body, man (Smokey from Friday voice)! Yes, some women just want you to slide inside and do what it do but...some women enjoy the art of seduction. Get some ice cream, some fruit, hell, if you don't wanna do all that, just plant some kisses all over. Start from the neck and work your way down and once you get in between her thighs- eat her. If you're not eating the pu*** in 2015...you're...you're corny. Sex isn't the end all be all but for those who have it and enjoy it, it is important and I will not sit here and tell you otherwise. Go read, "Make It Nasty," ... just cause.

Maintain Le Fire With, Thy Queen

I'm not gonna write a bunch of sh** for this one because there's an entire blog dedicated to this very point on the site that you should go read, if you haven't done so already. Go read, "Maintaining The Romance," AFTER you read this tho. Proceed on.

Converse, With Thy Queen

I saved this one for last because this one is EXTREMELY important- communicate with your queen. I look back on all my relationships and it hurts to know that part of the reasons why we didn't work is because communication sucked elephant d***. I look back on potential partners and it hurts because the communication sucked dolphin d***. I look back on friendships that didn't work or are now estranged and it hurts because the communication sucked whale nuts. We as men have to get to a place where we communicate better. This "fallback" craze is stupid! No one is Charles Xavier from the X-Men, no one is Ms. Cleo, no one is a fu**ing mind reader, so if you aren't expressing how you feel, verbally...how can things get better!? The goal is to work through and...wait for it...get though, motherf***a! The excuse that, men don't communicate well, blah blah is tired and old and ladies I'm telling you to not accept it because if you accept it for 6 months...you'll accept that sh** for 6 years! I've said this before and I will say it again: if you can communicate to her how you want her to suck your d*** then you can communicate to her how you want to be loved and all the things you have an issue with! If she pushes you away...if she turns it around and ignores what you're saying makes it about her...that sh** will continue to happen and she ain't the one for you, bruh. I don't care if she sucks the soul from your d*** and lets you f*** her best friend with the fat ass and natural hair- if her communication skills suck, step away. Communication is so key, it's so crucial, it's so fu**ing necessary! Talk to your lady. Talk with your lady. It's healthy. It won't hurt you to ask how her day was. It won't hurt you to tell her that you've been hurt before. It won't hurt you to say, "hey, I made plans for us to go see x y z and afterwards we're doing a b c...don't make other plans." It won't hurt! I'm not telling you to spill your guts. I'm telling you to....I'm suggesting you learn how to communicate better, not just for yourself but for the betterment of ya'll, as a couple. 

"You really feel like that tho?"

"Yes, yes I do!"

We gotta know when to check our fellow men, for the fu** shit they do. You might call it hatin or blocking but real men call it...wait for it...accounta-fu**in-bility! Now, the way Meek did it to Drake...wasn't cool. Doing s*** like that, behind the scenes, is completely ok. Checking other men needs to happen more because the more the fu** slides...lol...wait for it...the more these women go get women and build happy ass homes with. Not saying that's a bad thing but if @...never mind. Sometimes, we get caught up in trying to take care of the weeds so much, that we forget to smell and enjoy the roses. When you think about the analogy of women being like flowers and men being like weeds...things being to be put into a better perspective. So often, we are told to focus on the weeds (men) that we forget that even after the weeds are taken care of...the flowers (women) get neglected. We gotta stop neglecting the flowers. We have  to learn how to love our women better because now, more than ever, it is important! It is fu**ing vital! We all want better and all that jazz but wanting better will always start with self, before anyone else. I know I said this was for all kinds of men but Black men...BLACK MEN...we gotta do better! I'm not saying this to make my vagina rate go up because I can care less about how women look at me and the ones that wanna hand off the pu*** to me like Russell Wilson to Marshawn Lynch. I'm saying this because I wholeheartedly mean the sh**! Black women are leaving Black men alone because 1) we don't get the basics 2) we don't wanna do the basics 3) we're disrespectful 4) we're womanizers and so on and so forth and it is counterproductive when building a kingdom fit, for a king and queen. If you take in all of what I'm saying, she won't have time for another man. This isn't some blueprint on how to keep your partner from cheating because we should trust our partner enough to believe that they won't cheat but this to help enhance the friendship/relationship we have already in place. If you keep your partner feed mentally, spiritually, sexually, and so on and so forth...you will never have to worry about if your love is enough fellows...her actions will show it- love thy queen!

*class is dismissed*

@Renaissance_Brotha_

So I Have This Friend...Whose # Is High Or Low- Depending

Names have been changed to protect the innocent.

I'm taking a break from finishing my paper to ask you something because Tony and I can't seem to agree on anything especially on this sex issue!!! Ok, you ready, well...I asked him his "number" the other day and he got soooo upset with me like, Renaissance Man, you have nooooooooo idea how mad this man was but, we talked about it for hours the next day (I was late to work because of it) and we put it to rest. He was all like, "Tari you tripping, it didn't matter because that was a long time ago" but I'm like, "nope, I need to know!" (I was clapping my hands like you lol don't judge me). Me and my girls feel the SAME WAY like, we need to know how many you been wit because I'm not tryna say "I do" to no hoe...not sayin my boo is s hoe but you know what I mean ---HELP ME friend! Women wanna know what's up big head.

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Do we ever just wanna know the number of people our partner has slept with? Is it ever, "just" "a" "number"? Why is Chiptole so damn good? Why do Black Lives Matter only in the f...

the first two questions (and more) will be answered in today's read...

So I Have This Friend...whose # is high or low- depending

At some point or another, you will be asked the amount of people you've had sex with by either:

a) your doctor

b) parent(s)

c) your current partner

d) a person of interest

e) all of the above

For (some) women, its E and for (some) men, it's A, C, and D, why? Well, women are viewed differently and held to a higher regard when it comes to sex and men, well, we aren't but does one's sexual partners matter??? Ima go ahead and say...it really depends on who you ask but to me, nah. I personally don't care about the number of men you've been with but I'll crack into that later in the piece, but for my friend who asked for help, here we go...

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If YOU, as a woman, ask a guy how many ladies he's been with, more times than none he's not gonna be honest with you. Now, don't get your boy shorts in a bunch, just hear me out real quick. If (insert name) tells you his number and it's too high, by your standards that is, HE'S under the impression you're gonna judge him and you're gonna think he was or still very much is, some type of hoe!

"Where was you when I called and you didn't answer?"

"I told you I was taking my moms out for dinner babe...what you talking about!"

"Mmhmm, your mother right...I already know how you get down Mr. 4-5!"

Once you're aware of his number, he goes from, "giiiirl, bae is everything! Yess, I love my bae!" to, (insert name): Male Thot. 

Now if he tells you and the number is low...you're gonna look at him like he's either lying or he's not adequate enough to sleep with you. You know how insecure a guy will feel when shares his number and that number is low???

"So, how many have you really been with besides me?"

"*sigh* 6"

"You lying! ... Really? Awwwww!"

"Awwwww" ... No grown ass man wants to hear awww when it comes to sh*t like that...

I (hand clap) don't (hand clap) care (hand clap, hand clap)! Don't awww me chick!

Just...let it go. There's no reason to create stress with sh*t that went on before you. Now, if his number is high and he's still taking down women like a young Wilt Chamberlain...that's a problem you'll have to deal with accordingly. If his number is low and you like him and you feel he can use practice like Allen Iverson...that is also something you'll have to handle accordingly. Ball is in your court.

If YOU, as a man, ask a woman how many men she's slept with...she's not gonna be completely honest with you. Now, just hear me out real quick before you start throwing your hands in the air and calling them bit**es and what not! The same reasons she doesn't wanna be completely honest with you, is the same reasons we as MEN don't want to...outta fear of being judged. In the face of society; double standards and women- do NOT flow together. If you ask (insert name) her number and it is too high, by your standards that is, SHE'S under the impression you're gonna look at her differently and/or she was or still is (in your head at least) some type of hoe.

"Where you off to?"

"Going to go meet up with Marissa and some of her friends to bowl."

"You mean the Marrisa you had that threesome with bac..."

"Relax babe, it ain't even that kinda party!"

"Mmhmm, yea, whatever! If you plan on doing anything just make sure you have him wrap it up."

Once you're aware of her number, she goes from, "my WCW is better than yours!" to, Thotahontas.

Now, if she tells you her number and it's low...you're gonna think she's out here suckin every dude's peepee! Some men have this logic where, if she ain't fu**in, she suckin and honestly, that's a lose-lose situation either way you look at it.

"You can be honest with me babe, like, it don't even matter, like, we grown."

"*sigh* I've slept with 4, which 3 were were boyfriends and 1 was just a fling but...I have given head to about 10 or mor..."

"Oh, so you was out there suckin like the New York Knicks huh...oh, oh, you ain't fu**** but you suuuure as hell lettin these dudes, start a family, in ya DAMN MOUTH!"

Just...let it go. There's too much ego and double standard mumbo jumbo involved when it comes to women and sex and quite frankly...it ain't even that deep. She has a past...just like you do. She enjoys sex (if not more)...just like you do. So why would you stress over s*** that was going on before you were even in the picture! Now, if she's still out here thottin-n-boppin- that's up to you, on how you wanna handle it. If she isn't that sexually experienced and you feeling her...practice does make perfect right?

Now, the reason I don't care is because like I've said previously; it was in the past and not with me! The quantity isn't important to me, the QUALITY of the person they've been with is the factor. If you've been with someone who only looked at you like you were just a tool for sex, followed by someone who was corny in the sack followed by mediocre sex coupled with a decent personality followed by someone who cheated on you and so on and so forth...that's a whole damn different can of worms we'll have to deal with. More importantly tho...I wanna know is ya healthy!!! If you're *VagFax* says you've been with 14 dudes, then I need to know what the CLINIC has to say as well! I'm up for either a) us going together or b) you going and bringing back the results because I'm not tryna slide inside of you clean and pull out and my entire penis looks goulash! I disagree with those who think that a number will determine if you like them or not- strongly disagree actually. Morals, qualities, one's behavior, level of maturity, like those are the things that should matter the most...not how many they've f***ed BEFORE you! Women act like, if they stumbled across a guy who fulfills their standards but found out later down the line that he was out there screwing everything with a pulse, that they're gonna stop dealing with him...you're lying to yourself and  I will call you/FaceTime you to tell you that you're a liar! Dudes act like, if they bag a girl who looks good, has her own everything, is smart, funny like Gina from Martin and they found out later down the line that she was smashing everybody BUT, the homies, they're gonna stop dealing with her. Some might but if that's the case, he's weak...and I will say that to any man's face. When you focus on the wrong sh** shit, you end up missing things that are going right...but what do I know.

Hope this helped and if you have any more questions, comments, concerns, you know how to get at me.

@renaissance_brotha_

W.E.T.

...but what that mouth do!?
- anonymous

I'm not sure who the first person was to ask this but I do know a lady asked me this while standing in line at Chiptole:

Lady: I'm sorry but what cologne are you wearing?
Me: Polo Black
Lady: oh my...well, it smells really great
Me: thank you, I appreciate you saying that
Lady: ok I'm sorry but you have really nice lips

***pause***

So at that point...I totally forgot what I wanted to order! She was pretty but...she had a ring on it (BBM sad face).

***unpause***

Me: really? Thank you...I don't get that often
Lady: they're a nice size though...just wanna know what that mouth do?
Me: *insert nervous laugh* a lot...I guess

She literally had me at a lost for words, so much so that I ordered a damn chicken bowl and forgot to ask them to add a lil more rice and chicken! When you ask someone of the opposite sex, "what that mouth do?" They're usually referencing...

But today I wanna touch on what else, that mouth can do;

Stimulate that motherfu**in mind!

*class is in session*

When we think about sex, we think about...

• sex in the shower
• sex in the kitchen
• sex in the living room
• sex in kids bedroom (ok, not on the bed...maybe near the toy chest...just an idea)
• sex in the car
• sex in the bathroom, at that restaurant where the waitress is always a bi*** because ya'll take too long to decide what you want
• sex...ok, you get the point.

And while this is cool,

we often forget that, even before intercourse can happen, one must be stimulated mentally. Yes folks, stimulating the mind can open doors that "penis/vagina key" can not!

I feel when you stimulate your partner, first mentally, the possibility of your physical needs and wants have a greater chance of being met. The idea is to be able to paint a picture for the mind of; WHAT you wanna do and HOW you're gonna do it and once that happens, sex has the tendency to be that much greater!

I get the whole, "having a physical attraction to somebody is important and blah blah blah," but when you think about our ability to even get in the mood, all I wanna know is...what that mind do!?

...You know what it's like to be aroused by a woman who knows the difference between: they're, their, and there!? It's on the same level as seeing your food come out at the restaurant. There's nothing more sexier than a woman who can hold an intelligent convo and challenge my mind! Now when I think about that in terms of sex, once you turn a person of mentally, unless it's your duty to please that booty, trying to have good sex with that person will be like watching paint dry!

I'm sorry fellas but if you think that just because you're good looking and the penis you're slinging will keep a woman interested; think again my friend! There are men out there who are handsome, have an amazing personality, humorous, are "packing," and...

*drum roll*

can keep a woman's mind stimulate without laying a single finger on/in her!

The great thing about mental stimulation is that it doesn't just happen in the bedroom because, I mean, you know, talkin dirty does makes the pus** wetter fellas (just tossing that out there). It can happen at school, church, the dentist office, a funeral, at work, when you send him/her a text,

"Hope you're day is going well...but when I see you ima f*** the soul outta you, ok?" Have a great day babe!"

orsomething else along those lines but the point I'm making is that you don't have to rely on JUST physical activity to get your partner aroused. I know you're thinking foreplay before sex is the sure fire way to get her panties moist but there are so many other ways you can achieve getting her in the mood;

Say it with me: women (hand clap) love (hand clap) to talk (hand clap, hand clap)! Yes, you got it! A man who engages a woman in conversation has already beat out the dude who is begging her to come "chill". Ask her out to coffee or hell, even the park just to talk and I promise you she will go back to her friends and rant and rave about you. Ask about what motivates her, what her interests are, her dreams, I mean, don't make it sound like an interview but the idea is to pick apart her brain and really get to know how she thinks and find out what she has a passion for. If you're concerned with just trying to f*** then I'm sorry sir but this piece isn't for you. Don't he afraid to share your interest and dreams as well...women find that sh** attractive bruh. Make eye contact- but don't eye fu** her. Pay attention to her body language. Even when you're texting, stay away from asking her question after question and making vague statements:

Him: wyd
Her: nothin watchin tv, you?
Him: same
Her: oh ok how was your day?
Him: pretty good, yours?
Her: it was good. Long, but good, just tired

It's convos like this that make women lose interest, real quick! I'm not saying be a First 48 detective but you don't wanna come off as vague either- engage her. Ask her what about her day was good or bad, what does she have planned for tomorrow or the rest of the week, so on and so forth. Yes, the convo of sex will come up at some point but she has to be able to feel comfortable AND trust you to be able to be open with you in that manner! If she likes you, of course she's thought about how would sex be with you, but don't go in for the kill by sending her a d*** pic or,

Her: I would have to say....Fast and Furious
Him: yea, I wasn't a big fan of Fast and Furious but the last one was good...so what you wearing

You're, too, thirsty bro, relaaax. Stop trying to show her that your d*** is on fleek and allow her to find out on her own, for that because if the convo is that good...

It's sexy to a woman when a man knows more about what's going on in the world vs the new Jordans that came out...basic b****es/women care about sh** like that. Who cares if you know that Drake was "runnin thru the 6 wit his woes," when you can't even name the three branches of government- you're just a tool to her. A man who is cultured, who has substance, one who can teach her something! Most of y'all will fake interest just to get the pu***, don't get the pu***, get mad at her for not giving up the pu***, and then try the same sh** on the next female...and it happens all over again- bruh, is you dumb or nah! Good convo is like foreplay- mind fuck her! I'm not saying read a bunch of sh** you don't care about but maybe, idk, talk about something that DOES excite you!

*light bulb*

She just wants someone to challenge her mind and not talk about the latest gossip, foolery, or talk about sports all the time; diversify your mind.

Now, [some] women like dancing. *gasp* If you're dealing with a woman, ditch the whole movie and dinner date and find a spot that plays music and tell her to get sexy, don't take long, and make sure she puts on comfortable shoes- be direct. When I talk about stimulating her mentally, dancing helps that as well, how? Her seeing you move with rhythm (or at least trying to) and enjoying yourself, is as big of a surprise as the Kentucky losing in the Final Four this year. Now I'm not saying fondle her while you're dancing because she'll think you're a creep but, trace her body with your hands, look in her eyes every so often, grab her by the waist, spin her, I mean, let your bodies talk so your hands don't have to so much. Unfortunately for me, my mother was a dancer so I was forced to do ballet, tap, and yada yada, so I grew up knowing how to dance and what not but for those who didn't, they had to learn from watching others and practicing. The point I'm making here is that women tend to associate dancing, with sex...and that's all ima say about that!

Now, a huge and I mean HUGE turn off for women is a man's inability to take the lead! "Idk babe, it's whatever you wanna do," will leave your penis inside your boxers and text messages unanswered. "How about you come over to chill," will have her lying to you on some, "ok boo, I'm on my way," when she really either went to sleep or continued to watch tv or she went out with her friends/another dude. Tell her you made plans and that you're coming to get her or for her to meet you somewhere if you don't drive (like me). Tell her what's on your mind. If you do tell her to come over and chill...make sure those are your only intentions!

(I mean, if she hops on you wanting the D...that's on you, I mean, I can tell you that she'll find it sexy if you turn her down, but what do I know)

The point is: she wants a man with a plan and action and not a lil ass boy, with hard di** looking for satisfaction. Don't be cocky, but be confident in all that you do and say. Be a leader. Have a backbone. Be clear and concise! If you say to her,

"When you get home after work, meet me at the lil Mediterranean joint in the city and don't be late and don't wear panties and bring sneakers and have bail money on standby just in case."

The moral here fellas is that, if you've gotten her thinking about what you plan on doing, that right there can be just, if not more pleasurable than the activity itself. Now, if you want her limbs to stretch long and wide, you might wanna tap into her mental first. Don't just be eye candy- be soul food. Don't just provide her food for nourishment- be food for thought, for her hungry mind. Strength is demonstrated in your ability to tell her no; so if she's rushing you to have sex...tell her no and stand by it! If you can find pleasure in watching her take off her clothes, find pleasure watching her undress her insecurities, while you kiss the flaws she's been afraid to expose to the world. Sure, you wanna eat the booty like groceries, we get it, we get it...but how about mind fuc**** her so good that penis is the last thing on her mind when it comes to you. She can't learn sh** from no dumbaas- dumbass! Stop being so caught on lust and thirst and try substituting those two for genuine interest and patience. "It's so dope when the lust is mutual," is another basic ass social media quote for basic ass people who get lusted after and then get mad when the other person only wanted them for sex- STICK WITH INTEREST! If she gives you the time if the day, if she allows you to take her on dates, if she devotes her time to you...be real, be honest, be genuine, be engaging, but more importantly- be you. If you listen...she will cum. Intelligence is sexiest on a man who actually knows how to hold a convo and I mean, I ain't the best looking man but I do have great teeth and I can talk a woman's head off or I can listen to her talk my head off till she goes to sleep. You know how corny it is for her body to be with you but her mind somewhere else? Bruh! I talk to ya'll like this because it's time we regain our position in the world and stop doing f*** sh**! Sex ain't going nowhere and if your concern is about quaintly and not quality then...I don't know what to tell you my friend, well, I do, but, that's a different blog.

Be food for thought, for a hungry mind and I guarantee you that if you seduce that mind...the body will follow but warning, entirely tempting...is her love below.

*class dismissed*

@renaissance_brotha_

Back-SEAT, Windows UP pt. 2

*class is in session*

"I'll take the lobster mac n cheese to go and...the head for dessert":

...because there's something sexy about watching a woman eat certain types foods or maybe that's just the freak in me. You ever been out on a date and all to can think about is, "damn...what if I cleared this table RIGHT now and gave her the b

usiness?" or "damn...what if i dropped my fork RIGHT now and went under the table and gave that d*** the business?"

Ok, so maybe you never thought to do that but I'm almost certain the thought to, I don't know...sneak off to the bathroom for a quickie has crossed your mind maybe once or twice? Something like this can only truly be done when on a double date or with just a lot more people than the two of you. It's summer, weather is good, you put on a dress and lets say you decide to not wear panties; you're already ahead of the game! Fellas, slide off to the bathroom, text her, "coast is clear, come get the part of the tip the waitress can't!"

And if you're gonna skip out on the check...have sex before, not after.

tombstone lovin:
The following might be a lil disrespectful and all I'll say is I apologize but...

If you're horny, crazy, and adventurous like myself...you will sneak away to a cemetery and have sex around a bunch of dead folks. Don't hit me with the, "omg, you are insane...I would never..." because a lot of you who've had sex, done sucked and f***ed in some places the law wouldn't allow or Jesus probably raised his eyebrow to! They're dead, you ain't, so, live ya life (ay ay ay)/don't concentrate on the tombstones, just squeeze'em tight.

Ok, so I'm corny and slightly joking but if you want a real rush: hit the cemetery for your next orgasm.

goalpost d*** down:
In every town there's a high school that has a football field or just a big ass field with grass, that is usually used to play some sport on, which could also be used to have sex on! In high school (or college), many of us had some form of sex behind a stairway, old classroom, library, locker room, I mean, that list goes on, but not many have had the pleasure of getting some ass...ON...the grass! Throw caution to the wind and take a trip to a local high school and just, go for it! Have sex in the middle of the field, have sex against the goalpost, have sex in the stands, why don't ya! Sex will always be fun in places that were off limits as a teen and the field is one of them.

"I'm sorry ladies and gentleman, I don't mean to bother ya'll...":

If you're from New York...you've heard that before on a train...

If you're from New York or maybe you've been here to visit, then you know of our hectic ass subway system. Here, we have plenty of trains that can take you were you wanna go, that run at all hours of the morning and night. If you are looking for a good rush for the summer; train sex is a great adventure! Always go for a cart that is either in the front or all the way in the back. Never and I mean never not keep your eyes peeled open for homeless folks, crazy ass teenagers, folks who are either coming from work or going to work or going home or coming from home, and more importantly, the cops! This would be the time for a quickie or hell, even a lil oral action! Hold on to that pole ladies as he subway surfs inside of you! Hold your lady up fellas, as she dangles from the bar like she's Mimi...but better looking! If all of this doesn't interest you...just let her ride, as you ride...save the missionary for...

"after hours project" - Dr. Evil voice:
THE COPY MACHINE!

See what I did there? I digress...

Work place sex is always good because if you have that one co worker that you hate, you can always have sex right there on their desk and let them sit in your ass juices the next morning. Boss says you need to finish up on a project? Great! Work on the project, while she works on that d*** under your desk! Boss gives you the green light to catch up on some work because you were on vacation last week? Awesome! Give her head on the copy machine and make her call you by your last name as you stroke her in the kitchen area! The supply closet, the utility closet, the janitor's closet, hell, your boss (or company) doesn't have cameras all over the place...have sex in the boss office! Could you imagine being deep inside of her and your boss comes off the elevator and she's screaming your name...bruh!

"stuck" in the elevator:
You're on vacation...elevator sex on the last night! Forgetabout the cameras that will be watching; give'em a show! You go down on him...he goes down on you..foot on his shoulder...rubbin his face all in it...lookin down at him...back up at the camera...back down at him...bite your lip a lil...bend her over...grip her by the waist...fu** it, moan if it's good (women love that sh*t)...just make sure...you not in the p**** making love bruh. You know how sexy it is to finish up and how funny is to be walking off the elevator and someone is coming on and the whole damn thing smells like sex...bruh!

parents trap':

I'm totally for having sex in the parents bedroom, why? Because 9/10 the parents aren't doing Ray J and Kim K sh** in there to begin with! I'm putting the pillow that pops put his head on every night right under her lower back, so I can have that p**** in the air just so I can taste it better and...hit that g-spot a lil better. Ride me till you cum and do it again on the side of the bed that your mom sleeps on. Grip them sheets as I enter you from the back and slap ya ass so hard that it echoes throughout the room. As kids, we slept in our parents bed and got mad when they kicked us out but what mommy don't know, won't hurt her. F*** it, film that sh**! What do you have to lose by filming it? Not (claps hands) a (claps hands) thinggg (claps hands, claps hands)! I'm not saying do this with a dude you've just met, hell, not even your partner of 1 year, but whatever you do...make sure you make that person do some ish that they wouldn't want anybody in the world to see.

Like eating that ass like a waffle cone from Mr. Softee.

Pleaseeee, be mindful of your height and weight restriction before you consider sex in any damn place! Use condoms! I didn't mention a place like the plane because I have a phobia of heights and my ass ain't never seen a plane, let alone been on one! If you're adventurous, try hitting a fair or amusement part and have sex somewhere around there. Wherever you decide to get freaky...keep them eyes and ears open because getting caught eating pu*** in Central Park after work...never mind.

@Renaissance_Brotha_

Back-SEAT, Windows UP

It's been a lil' minute since I've written a blog about sex, so, I figured, with summer coming to an end...let's talk about sex ba-by!

I love sex...especially in different places, example:
you go out on a nice date, you guys are conversing and you start kissing, "ooo gimmie that face, let me kiss it," all that silly sh*t and now she's like, "babeee, let's get back home already I'm wet!" Why wait to get home to make her touch her toes when you can hit an alley and throw her that di** that'll have her screaming louder than Meek Mill on a track (Free Meek)! I mean, if two dogs can enjoy a nice pasta dinner in an alley...you can serve her di** harder than Papa John's crust!

The point I'm making is; be spontaneous! Spice up that relationship/marriage! Sure, the cops are out here buggin or ya'll been bored the entire summer and yada yada yada but guess what? Sex cures all! Ok, I'm joking, but, having sex in different places is a better alternative than having sex in the living room; that's for sure.

I won't bore you any longer...

*class is in session*

"nah...pull over right there":

you ever got head while driving tho? im not talkin real fast, im talkin kinda slow...

BARS *Kevin Hart voice*

Whether it be oral or just plain ol' sweaty, hot, nasty sex in the car: sex in the car is a great thing! Some might argue that it brings bad luck upon the car, but how many of ya'll done had some form of sex in the car on Tuesday and two weeks later...the brakes gave out? Exactly, NEVER!

Ladies: rub on his penis while he's driving and just start talking crazy to him,

"say I won't put all that d*** in my mouth right now while you at the light!?"

or

"pull my d*** out babe...let me kiss it"

I guarantee YOU...he will whip his penis out faster than a chick with an EBT card at the supermarket from her Gucci bag!

Fellas: ya'll on the way home from a date, forget all that, "wait till I get you in the house" ish...handle her ass in the car!

"ah, babe...pull over right there...yea, right there...don't worry, don't worry"

or
"babe...babe...look...*rubbing penis ever so gently*"

That's right fellas, you or her should park up somewhere and climb in the backseat and get right into it! Fog them windows up! Have her ride you reverse cowgirl while you grip the back of her neck and whisper some nasty stuff in her ear! Give her backshots while she's grippin the dashboard, hell, have her lay out ON the dashboard and go ahead and get you a mouthful of her...you get the point. Just make sure you watch out for people and the cops...an orgasm one minute and Miranda Rights the next," don't mix!

public places:

You want an adrenaline rush? Have sex in a public place! Nothing says, "that was a great date," or "I love you" more than sex in the park! Forget all that, "oh babe, but, the bums sleep here," bs and sit her ass down that bench and treat right! Throw her legs in the air, lick on the clit and finger her at the same damn time! Not a fan of that bench? Have sex on the grass: missionary or let her ride you. Not cool with the park idea? Cool, hit a rooftop and enjoy the summer breeze and some sex your mother would be disappointed about you having! Hit a park...and enjoy natures first ever "sex swing". If you're up for a real challenge: hang from the monkey bars and have your partner give you oral and see how long you can last...whoever last longer...cooks dinner for a week! You ever had your woman's legs rested upon your shoulders while you suck on them lips!? Bruh! Just make sure you keep an eye out for the cops..."baby I'm cummin" one minute and "FREEZE," the next, don't mix!

"marco...marco...marco...G-SPOT!":

As kids, pools were always fun for playing basketball, seeing who could swim the fastest, hosting parties/BBQs, but as an adult...it's only good for skinny dippin' and having sex! Yup, you read right: s-e-x! If you don't have a pool of your own, that's cool, hit a public pool or drive to an area that might have one, you know, one those nice neighborhoods with the big driveways and green ass grass. Throw ambition to the wind and give him head under water! Not cool with that idea because you're afraid to get your hair wet: sit his ass on the edge of the pool, while you're still emerged and pretend his penis is a microphone and you're auditioning for America's Got Deep Throaters! Maybe you're not a fan of the pool idea, ok, cool...maybe a hot tub/Jacuzzi will work better. Have him sit down on the first few steps, straddle him, place your hands on his shoulders, and you ride him! Or, you lounge back and have him enter you and stroke you till his legs give out! Just make sure you keep an eye for the cops...looking back at your ass, as it makes waves one minute and "...do you guys live here?" while the cuffs dangle the next, don't mix.

give the neighbors a show:
I'm a huge fan of balcony sex because there's something about the freedom of knowing someone might be watching and allowing your partner to moan and scream as loud as they want; ahhh! Doggystyle while over looking a great view? Priceless! Whenever you go on vacation and your hotel or wherever you stay at has a balcony, I suggest sex happens. Receiving head while that annoying ass neighbor, that always keeps their blinds open, who decides to finally look over and takes notice to what you're doing? Priceless! Screaming so loud that you wake up the neighbors or your roommates (ha...sigh)? Priceless! Ladies...put on some heels and do a lil dance for him before you throw that ass back on him! Fellas...smack her ass, grip her by the waist, grab her by the shoulders and thrust harder, pull on her hair and play with her breast! The objection of balcony sex is to enjoy the view, be as loud as you want to while you're enjoying each other...not to be on some timid sh*t!  Just make sure you keep an ear out for the cops...your neighbors will call'em quick fast, because you re the one gettin ass.

"let me suck that d*** and see how many you can get done babe": 

I'm talking...sittin her on top of the counter and taking a step back, biting your bottom lip right before you place your face between her thighs. I'm talking...you giving him sloppy top (head, oral) while he's washing dishes and seeing how many he can wash before he cums. I'm talking...ignoring that pasta sauce and riding him in the chair while that sh** bubbles over. I'm talking..."let's go out to dinner babe," one minute and, "take them panties off and climb up on that table and let get a taste..." the next. I'm talking...69'in on the floor! You ever had sex for so long the damn steak got over cooked? You ever listen to the sound of them moaning so loud, that you forget that the water has been on for over 40 minutes!? Whatever you decide to do, just make sure you clean up after...because pubic hair and a bowl of cereal, don't mix.

fitting room action:

Maybe its the risk seeker in me but there's something sexy about sneaking into a dressing room and enjoying a quickie. This isn't the time to be making love or, "oh, I just wanna enjoy it, take it easy," kinda sex...this is that, "put these panties in your mouth babe and fuck me like you hate me before we get caught!" kinda action. F*** I look like, Michael Jackson Moonwalking in the pu***...I'm tryna Bobby Shmurda Shmoney Dance these strokes, bang-bang, and then boogie back into my dressing room before that annoying ass sales associate comes to double check on me. Go for a large department store, not those corny H&M kinda places where they rush you out of the dressing room because everybody is either A) tryna steal some sh** or B) trying on some sh*t they aren't even gonna buy after walking around for the next few minutes. There's no cameras and, if you get one with a mirror?! #Winning! Just make sure you keep your eyes and ears open...cops will break that sex session up quicker than the St. Louis riots!

..too soon?

Saving Ryan's Privates:

Mannn, who gives a damn about going to the movies and seeing ol' boring ass Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles after you JUST took your lil brother; not a damn soul! Movie theater sex is always good because you can go at certain times, to see a movie that 9/10 not a soul will be watching! Mid afternoon...who in their right mind is going to see Lucy? No one! Go for the back or mid section if you get caught so you can make a quick dash to the exit or head to the top so you can a lil more privacy from that annoying ass usher who wanna decides to finally do his job. Get a big ass thing of popcorn (yes, a LARGE *he/she got moneeeey*) and make a penis hole big enough for you to, you know, give a nice lil hand job or...maybe some head, depending on how you're feeling. Try to see if you can sneak into the projection room or the steps, this way, if usher "They Don't Pay Me Enough" puts his flashlight on you or blows his whistle...you can run for it, run for it, RUN! Just make sure you keep an eye out for an usher because he will more than likely be with a cop and, well...these cops ain't f***in around outchea!

If you wanted more, don't worry...part 2 drops tomorrow!

@Renaissance_Brotha_

So I Have This Friend...Who Cums Quick

I usually get women who hit me up about men who ejaculate too quick during sex but when a dude KiK'd awhile back (a private messenger app)

...I was taken aback just a lil,

Trevor: "Hey brush, umm, my girl Diane said you give good advice?"
Me: "Oh...you mean @TastiiieCakes?"
Trevor: "Yea, that's all me bruh"
Me: "Oh ok, yea yea, I'm good I guess, I don't toot my own honor"
Trevor: 'Lol, yea man I feel you bruh, too many dudes be cocky about junk ya feel me, you a modest dude from what I hear"
Me: "My head big already, so I can't be out here making it bigger. What can I help you with champ"
Trevor: "Alright, I love my girl, but, I have this issue...and I know I don't know you and I hope if you decide to use this in a blog bruh you respect me and not use my name"
Me: "You have my word"
Trevor: "I cum quick bruh n that sh*t be too *motherf***in good bruh I can't help but to do it. I cheated on her, to see if it was her, and the 4 other girls I f***ed bruh...it happened mad times bruh!"
Me: "Wait wait, 4????"
Trevor: "4 bruh. I pill'em bruh! I just don't know what to do bruh. Doc said i'm fine brush but idk, maybe you know something I don't brush you look like a Urkel kinda dude like no offense bruh"
Me: "I hear it all the time. But I'll make a blog because a lot of females hit me up"
Trevor: "fa who brush brush you 100 in my book, just don't put me or wifey name in it bruh and make that sh*t funny bruh"

So I Have This Friend...who cums quick

Over the years, many women have reached out to me to voice their complaints about men....who can't keep it up long enough for them to enjoy sex more than 10 minutes because they ejaculate too quick. Now, this might be surprising to some, but, it's a reality for many. You know how hard it is for a man to NOT slide in it and feel that warmth, that wetness, to feel that special bond between vagina and penis, that tightness and not wanna bust off quick? Sh*t is enough to make a brotha go crayyyy-zay (Old Dirty Bastard voice)! Myself...I know what its like to, you know, be in some p**** that's so damn good that when you think you're about to give her that NBA type d***...you come up short like high school JV players against the Varsity team.

I know some of you ladies will say, "well, I know my stuff is GOOD, so if he cum too quick, that's ok, I understand,"

b****, no you don't.

The moment it happens more than twice, you're on the phone with one of your girls and you're singing like Alicia Keys about his short cummings (pun all the way intended). Maybe you do have the holy grail of vagina or maybe it's because he hasn't gotten any in a long time or maybe he really does have a medical issue but whatever the case is; ain't nobody got time for that!

I'm joking,

but Trevor-Trev, here are a few ways you can prevent yourself from "shooting up the playground too quick"

1) tell her ass to get on t-t-t-top:

What's sexier than seeing her ride?

A BACON SANDWICH WITH SCRAMBLED EGG WHITES SWISS CHEESE AND KETCHUP!

Okay, I'm joking...slightly...but nothing is quite sexier than a woman who will straddle you from dusk to dawn! I like when a woman rides, why?
-she gets to feel all of this D!
-I get to play with her breast...while she feels all of this D!
-I get to see her eyes roll to the back of her head (ROLL'EM *Kevin Hart voice*)
-lastly...when I don't want her to ride anymore, I can just tell her to crawl up and put that p**** on my face- BOOM!

Naw, if I know I'm finna nut in the missionary position, I just act like I'm being aggressive and tell her some sh** like, "get on top...and ride daddy dick!" It's about control and when you give her control...boooy, she'll think she's Queen Elizabeth or...

Hustle & Flow her ass

You let her ride you and more times than none, she'll cum, hell, talk dirty to her while she's on top, play with her clit even! You do this because when she cums, you can cum right after, "baby I'm cumin too!!!"

*and they both came, happily, ever after*

2) grandma fist pumpin naked with heels on:
An ugly image right? Exactly! Wanna hold that nut in just a lil bit longer: think of random sh*t! This one time, I swear to you, the moment I went inside...I had to back out and look at her like,

WTF!!!

Haha, ya'll might be laughing but dead-ass, this was me! Sometimes we as men underestimate just how good the vagina just might be, so, we go in like, "yeaaaa, I'm bout to put in that work," and 5 minutes later its like, "...so you want water? I got water." You have to think of different sh*t to keep your mind off of what is going on! I say, listen to your iPod...actually, don't listen to me because I did that and she got hers off and till this day I haven't seen her since...I mean, she said it was good...but that was many moons ago. Fellas: get your mind OUT of the vagina, focus, so you can stay IN, the vagina. Puppies, old folks, that homeless couple that always ask you for money, the annoying fat guy at work that always ask you annoying ass questions, your uncle who thinks all the girls you bring to the family BBQs like him, but don't, or...think dead people...that always helps.

3) you dip'it then you flip:
Another great technique? Take it out and flip it gently on her clit! Not only will this buy you some time but it will also please her as well. When you're having sex (oral or intercourse), focusing on the clit is ideal!!! When you're giving her oral, you focus on the clit. When you're hittin it from the back, reach around and rub on the clit. Take it out and just start playing with it right on her vagina. Sh** is sexy to her, I mean, no one wants you to tease them, but, this will buy you some much needed time like I said. You catch your breath, hell, rub on her clit with your fingers just a lil, dip them in her, taste it, all that freak sh**, and then you just slide back in...slowly. You go from about to climax, to heightening hers in a matter of mins, but, if this doesn't work...

*** 4) eat itttt (eat it) eat itttt (eat it)/think you bout to nut, just eatttt it:
And this my friend, is how I got great...at oral pleasure! Joking...eating pudding and cupped snacks is. The moment you think you're about to nut, I don't care if she's screaming, "don't stop...ooh, baby, ohh, baby!" yo ass better stop what you're doing and go downtown and enjoy her! Yes, I advocate for, "if he's about to cum too quick, give a lil head to slow down that climax," head. You kidding me? If you're a woman who doesn't enjoy gettin the d*** and then gettin head in-between, then you haven't had sex with me the right guy yet. Sure, I know being at the height of your orgasm and then having it taken away from you is beyond annoying...but for head? I think of it like a fast break in basketball: sure, D. Wade (Miami Heat player) can just do a spin move or crossover the defender and slam it home but he knows that LeBron's ass (Miami Heat player) is RIGHT behind him, so, he's gonna double check and see exactly where he is and then alley-oop it to him; win-win for the whole team.

If you're wondering about the analogy, here's the breakdown:

D. Wade is your penis Trev, you figure, cumin too quick would just be selfish (scoring off of the fast break), so, you wanna give the assist to your homie LeBron (your tongue) so he can shine too!

Moral of the story here: if you think you're about to nut too fast, eat her ass...I mean vagina, eat her vagina.

5) meditate x yoga x exercise more:
You might laugh but doctors will suggest this because of the health benefits associated with all three. Mediate, and you are at peace with the world. In terms of sex? You're refocusing your attention elsewhere so you not releasing yourself all inside of her just yet. Yoga is good for the body and blood circulation. In terms of sex? You learn some positions and you end up putting her ass to SLEEP! Exercising is just all around great for you as you may already know. In terms of sex? You discipline yourself, get some strength, and pick her ass up and do it like Mimi and Nikko...in the shower...cause the rest of that sex tape was wiggdty-wack!

and all this sh*t don't work:

JUST (claps hands) CUM (claps hands, claps hands)

There's no sense in stressing your body out in trying to keep that in, so, just let it out. I hope this has helped you more than it has made you laugh because if it's actually a serious problem, you really need to revisit a doctor and see what's up. Some women will tell you that if she loves you, sex isn't a factor...bull AND sh**; no woman will stay with a guy who can't treat the p**** better than Kanye West takes care of Kanye West! No woman wants...

"a quick, pumper"

I know how it gets tho...you're f***ing and it's just so good, you pleasing her and she's loving it...but in the back of your mind, you're trying hard NOT to nut too quick...so your nut, turns into a Trey Songz song,

"I don't wanna leeeeeeave, but I gotta go right nooooow/I'll be back (up) befooooore, you know it"

or whatever he was crying about.

@Renaissance_Brotha_