So I Have This Friend: Whose Sex is Wack!

*names have been changed to protect the innocent*

Email from friend:
"Yo Ant, this bi*** @geminisweet p**** is wack! It smelled like 22 Africans in leather suits b! It's like, she dead came and then got up and showered and left, like, are you serious! I almost blacked on her! If I didn't have to study for MCATs I would've blacked b! Why these b****es think they can get theirs and bounce like that? Why was she so stiff?!?! I don't wanna waste your time but I want you to make a blog about this b, like, that's ya homegirl and I blame you for tellin me to f***. I wasted my night and I coulda been in Mel b, like, I curved Mel for this b****! Make a blog about her sex being wack or something because I'm not f***in these b****es no more man, it got me aggy!

Dilla"

Women think that they're the only ones who experience bad sex but guess again ladies, you're not. For the past few months, swarms of guys have been hitting me up asking me to make a post or blog about women and their lackluster sex, so, here we are. Now, in no way, shape or form am I degrading women in any way, nor do I want this to come across as sexist, but ladies...sometimes your sex ain't on point. I've experienced some bad sex partners in my day, fortunately not a crazy amount because I'm not out here giving the d*** away like Rondo dishing the ball but the ones that I have experienced...*phew*! I figured I'd put together a list of complaints I've gotten and also share some of my insight for your reading pleasure. Without further ado, I present to you:

So I Have This Friend...whose sex is wack!

*class is in session*

Spider-Man:
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how a woman can say, "yea, yea, just make sure you give me all that d***!" and then

10 minutes later...

"baby...babe...wait, wait, hol'up, hol'up!"

Oh, so you Big Sean now? Men don't like women who run from the d*** just like women don't like men who can't keep their d*** up! You wanna be a runner? Apply at Applebee's or Friday's. I'm suckin' and lickin' on that clit, don't stop me. I got your legs on my shoulders, hittin' that spot, don't put your clammy ass hands on my chest to push me away. I got ya face down, ass up, hands grippin' ya waist, don't scoot away. If it hurts, say so, if not, let me pin you down and enjoy it because all that movin' n'sh*t like lil' boys do in the barber chair... #AintNobodyGotTimeFoDat
Tip: If its feelin' good to you, let it be so you can cum and speaking of cummin'...

tap-out:
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how a woman can even fix her lips and say some sh*t like, "I'm bout to cum, YES...*wooo*...I'm done (insert smiley face)." Done? B***h, you done making that box macaroni and cheese you make every Tuesday? Or are you done leaving hair in the shower because I'm confused. I know loads of men are guilty of the same behavior but all it takes is a 5 minute blow job and 10 minutes of penetration and we're good; women on the other hand require a lot more time and effort. No man wants to hear, "yea, yea, yea just make sure you ain't stingy with the d***!" and then she's stingy with the p****, WTFeezy!? Just because yo ol' selfish ass is finished don't mean I'm done! You better make that mouth work or them hands work because I counted two orgasms for you and 0 for me and I better nut before I turn into the Incredible Hulk over here.

Oh, you thought I was a "1-minute man" ha. You thought I was gonna get a taste of dat p****, bust a nut n'go to bed ha. You thought I was like Tyrone ha; you thought them backshots was gon' take me out my zone ha. Well baby girl see you wrong ha. You came a few times, now you surprised I last long ha...

I digress,

Tip: You may have laughed at that musical break but seriously: don't just leave him hangin', finish what you start.

doorknob stiff:
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how you can post videos of you "twerkin dat ass" for Vine or Instagram but when it comes to sex...you're like a fish outta water! Maybe it's me, may-be-it's-ME, but how you gon' climb yo ass in the bed and then don't climb on the d*** to ride!? You better put some movement on dat d***! (Pops from Friday voice). I'm not saying you have to go ape s*** on the d***, but hell, if you moving like Sara from Save The Last Dance when Derrick taught her how to dance when we out at the club, don't be as stiff as President Obama when he was on Ellen (Obama Dancing) when we f***, plain and simple.
Tip: Don't let me be the only one putting in some action! If we're in doggystyle position, throw that ass back! If you're on top ridin', get on your tippy-toes and bounce!

The Nicki Minaj-er:
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how after only TWO damn strokes...you screaming like a damn exorcist is being performed! Can I get to stroke 17 before you start reciting sexual scriptures!? Oh, so you want a Tony Award for your performance? Or, or maybe you thought you were gonna get an Oscar? Keep the Nicki Minaj- voices and faces outta the bedroom! I know the d*** be good but if you wanna perform and live out your inner thespian, become a YouTube actress; cut the sh*t.
Tip: Grab a damn pillow and yell into it. Grab your panties, roll them into a little ball and shove them in your mouth, unless your vagina smells like pig tongue and sauerkraut, which brings me to my next point...

all-day-p**** (ADP):
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how any woman can expect a man to lick, suck, finger, or stick his penis into a vagina that has not been cleansed! If you know you've been out all day at work, or in the gym, or grocery shopping, or shoe shopping, or at bible study and then you want me to come over (or you come over) and you're expecting sex and you ain't take some soap and water to that vagina? I hope your clit falls off! Seriously tho, that sh*t ain't cool. Hygiene is important and should be a top priority when it comes to sex. Also ladies, stop going to the bathroom to pee and/or sh*t and then getting back in the bed expecting us to resume sexual activities, it's just not happening.
Tip: Cleanliness is next to Godliness; make sure you wash the holy hell outta your vagina, amen!

what dat mouth DON'T do?:
I will NEVER, be able to understandable: how any woman can expect a man to go deep sea divin' and then turn around and won't play a clarinet solo on the penis! Do I look like Charlie Brown? You not gon' play me! Now me personally, Anthony, I'm not a fan of it, but a normal dude who ENJOYS receiving oral sex, will feel some kinda way. Also, no teeth; this ain't a BBQ and my d*** is NOT a piece of corn! Lastly, for all you women who expect men to swallow your vaginal juices when we're performing oral but you scrunchie your face up when we want to cum in YOUR mouth, listen: either you're swallowing or yore taking it on your upper lip because if not...stay at home and watch Law & Order.
Tip: If you don't like the way it taste, have him increase his fruit intake. If you're not a 'flute blower' or you know you "suck d***" at suckin' d***, just stay at home and watch a Netflix movies.

*non-positional:
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how the only positions you do are:

•doggystyle
•missionary
•ridin' a dude's face

Don't nobody got time for that, "but I only cum when he hittin it from the back!" ... have you TIRED sex while on your side, one leg flat, the other wrapped around him or in the air and he just goes deeper and deeper...and deeper? Probably not but guess the f*** what: IT'LL MAKE YOU THANK HIS MAMA FOR BRINGING HIM INTO THIS WORLD! You don't have to be Gabby Douglas on the d*ck (No R. Kelly) but f*** out-SIDE your comfort zone! I'm not asking you to be a trapeze artist but expand your horizons! On the other hand tho, ladies, stop tryna do positions that don't fit your body type. If you know you can't ride the d***, spare the both of us because if I'm bored, I'm grabbing my phone and watching Hey Arnold on YouTube. Stop tryna do splits n'sh*t when you know good-and-damn-well your body ain't set up that way. If you're athletically challenged: find a yoga class, Zumba, or come to me for some ballet moves that you can utilize...my services don't come cheap tho.
Tip: Listen to Usher's, "That's What It's Made For," for some inspiration or seriously, take up Yoga.

squirt without warning:
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how a woman can KNOW she's a squirter but decides not to disclose that info to me before sex. I, like many other men, LOVE a squirter but without warning? Nah (Chief Keef voice). If I'm tongue drillin' you, you start screaming, legs start shakin', and it turns into splash waterfalls...I'm going into the kitchen, grabbing the biggest pot, filling it with water, and tossing it on your face! Give me a warning at least so I can use some old bed sheets and a couple of towels, so we both not looking at each other like, "rock-paper-scissors for who sleeps in the wet spot?" because 9/10 I'm gonna win and you're gonna be mighty upset about having to sleep in that sh*t.
Tip: Give me a heads up, that simple.

leave my ass alone:
I will NEVER, be able to understand: how any woman can think its cool to run their lil' manicured fingers anywhere near a man's ass. Oh, ohhhhhh, orrrr their tongue!!! Consult (claps hands) your (claps hands) man (claps hands) before (claps hands) deciding (claps hands) to (claps hands) Lamborghini his doors (claps hands)! What I mean is: don't just assume because you go from the d*** to the balls, that you gotta move your damn tongue down into my booty hole! YES- it's a pleasure zone for men; NO- no man wants his salad tossed without warning! This ain't HBO Oz! Some dudes enjoy it-hey, more power to them but ask first. If you wanna grab my ass while we're in missionary, go for it but please...don't move those fingers elsewhere. You stick your fingers in my ass, I'm d**k'-dippin' in ya butt!
Tip: Just ask because no man wants a "Lamborghini Mercy" outta nowhere.

Now I'm sure there are a lot more I forgot to mention so, share some, if you don't mind! All feedback is welcomed and highly encouraged!

I hope you enjoy this Dilla and make sure you tell other dudes to read and follow the movement too boy!

@renaissance_brotha_

What a Man Wants, pt. 2

If you haven't done so already, check out "What a Man Wants, pt.1".

*class is in session*

Men want...a woman who's attractive:
AND who has confidence! I can be perfectly fine with you just the way you are but I can't make YOU see YOU how I see YOU! Men want a woman who carries herself like a queen from the ankle up and nothing less. Allow me to be frank for a moment but YES, men are attracted to a pretty face and how you look will determine if we want to speak to you or not. It's not shallow, it's honest. "Damn, your personality is pretty as f***! That sh*t got my d*** hard!" Now that's something you will NEVER and I mean NEVER hear from any guy, but what you WILL hear is, "Damn, excuse me beautiful can I talk to you? I'm tryna make you my future wife, like, that body lookin right! You got a man? Oh...how long you been havin that problem?" Now, that last part is for comedy purposes but you get the point. If we're out for a night on the town and you're looking radiant, elegant, just as bad as you wanna be and we as your man see other guys checking you out; THAT SHIT'S A TURN ON! A fat ass, nice breast, curvy hips, luscious lips, all of that sh*t is cool but at the end of the day, when you get old and gray/beauty isn't only defined in the physical form, it's how you maintain yourself that'll keep you lookin different from the norm...*Wale doe*

(Wale didn't say that btw)

Honestly tho...Instagram pics show more than side views.

*Men want...a woman with some smarts:
I love a woman who can challenge me intellectually! One of the things that turns me on MOST about a woman is being able to learn something new from her. I love lips but it's what comes OUT of those lips that speaks to me the most. You can look like Beyonce but be dumb as a brick and then what? Being "bad" isn't enough! We want someone who we can hold a conversation with!

S-u-b-s-t-a-n-c-e!!!

The length and depth of the conversation varies with a woman who we just wanna have sex with vs. a woman we want to get to know, settle down with. Furthering your education is sexy ladies, never let a man tell you different. You wanna go back to school and get another degree or just finish up, a real man will support that and speaking of support...

Men want...a woman who will support them:
I'm not talking about supporting him like his parents or his last GF/wife did with his unrealistic dreams, goals, and aspirations. I'm talking about supporting when his dreams are actually attainable. Supporting his efforts in wanting to do better, and achieving more in life. I'm talking about when he's down and he feels like the world is against him, you being there to help lift him because at times, we as men become weak. Men want to know that: if the world and everybody and everything in it is saying no, you'll be by his side holding him down. All we want is someone who will help us along the journey, that's all.

Men want...a woman with some family values:
Men, want, women, with, some, family, values! What that means is: how you were raised, will say a lot about you as a woman and as a (future) mother. Did your parent(s) cook on Sundays? Did you guys attend church? Did you guys eat at the table and not off in your own rooms? What's your relationship like with your parents!? Better question: what's your relationship like with your dad!? To sum this all up: once we've made the transition from friends to being in a relationship and building upon that and I as a man make the decision to make you my wife, now I need to see if you will be a suitable mother. All of those questions play a key role into making that decision because YES, starting a family should be the main goal at the end of the road and YES, who you are as a woman, as a wife, matters a great deal in my decision on having children with you.

Last but not least...

Men want...sex:
I will make this as raw and as honest as I possibly can: if you're not having sex or giving your man oral, another woman will gladly do the job! We laugh at a show like Scandal but that is the reality for a lot of women in the world today. I'm not saying you have to be on your back or on your knees all the damn time, but a compromise between the two of you needs to be had. Men want sex, so it's your job to provide it for him. Sometimes, after a long, stressful day at work, we don't wanna hear, "babe, how was your day?" Sometimes we wanna hear, "drop your shit, go have a seat...I'm suckin ya d***!" That's it! I don't wanna sit and complain about my day and I know you don't really wanna hear about it, so, just suck his d***. Sex isn't everything, but it is one of the reasons why a guy will stray. You don't have to be an all out freak, but just make sure your man's needs are met in that bedroom!

Every guy is completely different but I'm almost certain if you poll guys on what it is that they want, their list will more than likely pale in comparison to this. This isn't a complete list but it gives you as a woman a general outline of the wants of a man. The wants and needs of the guy that you're currently dealing with will never be the same as the men you've dealt with. It's not that we're afraid of commitment, we're just afraid to commitment to the wrong one! I am a man who knows exactly what I want because after hurting women and being hurt by women so much, trial and error has done me more good than harm. I encourage women to allow men to be men. I'm not saying allow him to put your through bullsh*t, I'm saying hold his ass accountable and check him on his bullsh*t! Know your worth! You don't have to be like Michelle Obama or Scarlett Johansson or Halle Berry; just be you! Self-worth, self-respect, self-love, I don't say this because it makes the blog sound good or for praise...I say it because it's all truth. You give me something to love, honor, respect, appreciate and I will give you all of me and nothing less, only more.

Fellas: am I missing anything?
Ladies: if there's anything that you would like know that you didn't see here, feel free to hit me up at brotharenaissance@gmail.com

@renaissance_brotha_

Want a Man Wants, Pt. 1

"I don't understand men at all! All they wanna do is play mind games, video games, and most of them only wanna have sex and then disappear!" - says a good majority of woman. Listen: I'm not an expert on men, but as a man, I know what I want! But this isn't about me...this is about what other men want, so, without further ado...

*class is in session*

Men want...a woman who has a connection/relationship with God:
Ok, so Jesus doesn't HAVE to be your bestie but a relationship with God, is something (most) men want. Sure, you can hold him down financially, physically, mentally

BUT

...a woman that prays for, even WITH her man!? Amen! A REAL man will honor and respect you wholeheartedly for your relationship with the Lord...unless the two of you have different views on religion, then that's a totally different case and blog altogether.

Men want...a woman who isn't ALWAYS partying/in the club:
no (hand clap) man (hand clap) wants (hand clap) his (hand clap) woman to be (hand clap) in (hand clap) the (hand clap) club all the damn time!

Now, it's ok to hang out with your homegirls here and there but every weekend tho? If you're the type to party, date a party promoter so y'all can take Instagram selfies, make collages n'sh*t, and spend money you don't really got on bottles you don't really like. The goal of a relationship is to build into something greater and that can NOT be achieved if you're out twerkin to Miley Cyrus and Lil' Wayne every Friday and Saturday night. #TurnYoAssDownForSomething

Men want...a woman with a sense of humor, whose playful:
Be the Gina, to his Martin! You don't have to be hilarious but a woman who has a sense of humor? #Winning! Those who remember the show Martin, remembers that, not only was Gina beautiful, strong, educated, and driven...she was a fool! And YES, those kinda women EXIST! Don't complain about him being a grown ass man who enjoys playing video games; grab a controller and play along, hell, practice when he's not home! Bored? Grab a pillow and pop his in the head; start a pillow fight...you know play fighting always leads into sex! Men love a woman that's playful, plain and simple.

Men want...a woman who has her own and a great sense of self:
Ladies: don't let these weak ass men/n****s trick you into believing you have to be a weaker woman because they aren't secure with who they are! A mam wants a woman who adds to what he has going on in his life already, along with bringing the great things she has to offer and building upon that. Never should you drop all of what you're doing in YOUR life for HIM because if you lose him...what will YOU have? The sexiest thing you as a woman can wear is confidence accompanied by a strong head on you shoulders. Know who YOU are first and foremost. Know your worth as a woman, so I can have something to value.

*Men want...a woman who is mentally mature:
All we want is a woman who can handle her emotions on a mature level, that's all. It's crazy when a man and woman have a misunderstanding over things and the woman shuts down or beings to attack because she lacks the ability to comprehend how to understand a point of view other than their own. Express your feelings boo boo, but don't come at me crazy for what YOU'RE feeling; just express yourself in a real and honest manner. I'm not looking for you to cut me off when I'm talking. I'm not looking for you to be dismissive or raise your tone when you hear something you don't agree with. I'm looking for you to be open minded and be attentive to not only what I have to say but why I'm saying it. How you handle your emotions as a woman, will always be a key factor in a man deciding if he wants to be with you or not on a more serious level.

Men want...a woman who will be open and honest, respectful, and be a team player:
To further my point in the last paragraph: be open with me! Tell me what's going on in the relationship/marriage but don't do it in a nagging way! There are ways to tell me what's on your mind, without me having to guess. Also, honesty is the best policy! Honesty is like Elmer's glue in every relationship/marriage because without it, nothing can truly be held together. No man wants to be with a woman who he feels is dishonest. On top of that, I have to HAVE something to respect right? Self respect is something every man looks for in a woman, contrary to popular belief. Respect doesn't only mean you give it to me...but you have it and give it to yourself! And on top of all of that: teamwork, makes, the, dream, work! I've said it once and I will continue to say it: until you are whole as an individual, a relationship can't work which means a marriage won't come about. Ladies, stop tryna force these men into getting in a relationship when you know good-and-damn-well you aren't over your ex or a past relationship/situationship that didn't work in your favor. We as men look for a woman we can see ourselves grow old with, not grow tired of.

Men want...a woman who can cook:
You don't have to be no Paula Deen, hell, you don't even have to be Rachel Ray but you must be able to do a lil' sumthin' sumthin' in the kitchen. If you can read and follow a recipe, you'll be alll-right! You don't even have to cook all the time either, just cook here and there! For an added bonus...cook with him (keep the relationship exciting). The way to a man's heart is thru his stomach and his...

Come on back tomorrow, for the conclusion of... "What a Man Wants".
And I mean it this time, lol.

8pm Eastern Time!

@renaissance_brotha_

Ray Charles To The Curve

The following content may contain heavy usage of the word bitch; viewer discretion is advised.

Before I start this piece, I would like to say thank you to ALL that have been supporting #ABetterBreedOfMan since my launch in March. 6 months later, 20 blogs done&done, thousands upon thousands of page views, I want to sincerely say thank you because it honestly means a lot to me. I really take what I do seriously and do my best to give 110% with every single blog that I post. At one point, I got upset at the fact that everybody wasn't feeling what I was doing but, like with most things in life, I learned the hard way and I thank the Lord for that lesson. I thank the Lord for the talent but more importantly, I thank the lord for LIFE! More importantly tho...thank God for all you Ray Charles dudes right now! (2 Chainz voice). What better way to welcome the new season than with a new blog from yours truly! All you dudes who can't seem to take the hint and think that, that instacrush REALLY likes you when all she REALLY likes is yo posts...guess again.

*class is in session*

Ladies, I know you felt some kinda way when I wrote, "He's Not That Into You, Respect The Curve," so I figured, what they hell, let me make a piece about something I am PERSONALLY familiar with: being "Ray Charles to the curve". I am a man who can testify about having an interest in a woman and that feeling not being mutual, whatsoever! I have ignored many red flags in my day because I figured, "what the hell, she gave me the number, she MUST like me a lil bit...right?" Wrong, WRONG...she was only doing that so I wouldn't keep asking! Some of you dudes out there don't get that technique, so, I will help you get it. Now before I begin, I'm only speaking from experience, so if you can relate, making sure you leave your testimony in the comment section, otherwise, lets get it started

Hey Buddy!:

Bitch...don't "hey buddy" me!

I know what "hey buddy" is code for and it's not sex! Seriously tho, a lot of you guys don't realize that words like: buddy, fren, friend, pal, brotha, dude, bro, homie, etc is really code for, "I'm not interested in you like that!" She hits you up because you're cool to talk to, about the dude she's f***in...not because she WANTS to f*** you! You're like the dude she talks to when her gay best friend is out twerkin, her best friends are busy, and the dude she's f***in is probably out f***in somebody else or playing Grand Theft Auto 5! How a woman speaks to you, will dictate her level of attraction towards you.

"Well I'm fine...my day was good, thanks for asking...so can I tell you about what's been going on wit this man!!":

Well...my day was good too bitch!

If she hits you up on some, "hey, how are you?" and then proceeds to ask no further questions about YOU or anything that pertains to YOU...she don't give a damn about you, simple and plain. When a female is interested in you, she'll ask you questions about what's going on in your life or just general questions about you that she hasn't gathered from social networks. Answer me this fellas: does she know you like red velvet cake because she ASKED you or did you willingly TELL her because she told you about her date, and the dude that ordered it for her? I'll wait...

Exactly!

If she ain't read it off of FB, Twitter, or obtain it from an Instagram post; you had to tell her and that right there should let you know...she's not that interested in you. A woman who is interested, will take the time to get to know you, not just obtain information that you've learned, for the betterment of her.

"Damn, he is fine!"
"Who?"
"Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't think you heard me...one of my followers!":

Bitch...I look good too!

Her #MC (ManCrush) might be LeBron James, hell, it might even be Macklemore, but unless it's someone outside of stardom...her talking about other dudes, should raise more than just your eyebrows; it should raise some concerns. "Damn, but seriously, @coreyniceeyes looks good! Ima screenshot and you show." Bitch, don't send me no pics of no dudes unless it's Jesus himself! Anytime casual talks about other dudes get brought up, I mean CLEARLY, she's telling you...she's not interested.

Your jokes...just don't make her laugh:

Bitch...I know I ain't Kevin Hart but come on, laugh at something!

You try to tell some jokes to lighten the mood/break the ice and all you seem to be doing is making her more and more agitated! Your lil comedy act may have worked with the last girl that "friend zoned" but it's not going over well with this one...take the hint. When you tell a joke and she doesn't say something like, "lol, aww," or "that was cute," or there's no lmao, LMAO, ctfu (cracking the f*** up), LML (laughing mad loud), or even ROTFL (rolling on the floor laughing), she's not interested and clearly she doesn't find you funny. Forcing corny jokes is like forcing a dry penis into a drier vagina; that sh*t will only hurt both parties involved!

"Oh hey, I'm bringing Lali, Lindsey, and Manda...see you soon!":

Bitch...leave those bitches at home!

If you have never had any alone time with her, it's clear she's probably not interested in you. Sure, DOUBLE dates are cool but handicap dates (where her friend...or you're the third-wheel) aren't fun at all, ESPECIALLY when you're trying to get to know her better. You can't sneak kisses at the table while you, her, and Becky are all out at Applebees! You tryna get a kiss and she's tryna get a selfie; you tryna cup her ass but she's moving away tryna get a better angle on her steak and shrimp dish, making sure that there's no guest appearance from your plate/cup... #ItBeLikeThatSometimes

She doesn't return you call/text/emails or any other form of communication:

Bitch...you just said you were sleep, how you like that pic in ya sleep!?
This should be pretty damn obvious for all you dudes! If anytime you call and she doesn't pick up, she's not interested. If you try to FaceTime/Oovoo/IChat/Skype/Tango and she declines with the quickness or it just rings out, she's not interested. If you text her and you don't get a response, clearly, she's not into you. If you do get a response and she says, "oh, I was busy," but she managed to put up two RP on Instagram, tweeted, and updated her pic on FB WHILE she was, "busy"...she's not interested. If you do text and she responds with, "who this???" all those damn question marks should be an indicator that she...is not feeling you and/or she deleted your number and/or it was never stored!

Best friend: "Oh, it's nice to meet you...":
Bitch...you ain't tell ya BESTIE about me tho?!?
Anytime the best friend(s) have no idea of who you are, chalk that up to never being talked about from a lack of not-giving-a-f***! If she's feeling you, you better believe the best friends, her parents, siblings, her favorite auntie, social networks, hell, even the person that does her hair is gonna know about you. A woman who has an interest in you will sing that sh*t to the WORLD like a bird on a weak tree branch in the middle of Spring!

I'm celibate:
You ain't celibate bitch...you just had sex with Marc last week!
If the sex talk hasn't happened, let's say, AT ALL, it won't happen. Let's say y'all do chill, alone, and she's laughing at your lil jokes n'what-not and actually having a conversation with you...pay attention to her body language: although she's "speaking" her body language will say more then the mouth ever will. If she's cold, standoff-ish, that's a sign of her being uninterested. You like her right? So you're gonna stand close to her. You THINK she likes you right? So why she give you church hugs (that's when there's enough space in between the two of you to birth twins) and sit at the end of the couch? She's, not, in-te-res-ted!

Ladies, I know some of these dudes you attract are beyond annoying and only wanna have sex with you when all you want is a friend but if you aren't making what it is that you want, crystal clear, it will never be clear to him! You're concerned about hurting his feelings but will keep him around and complain about what he's doing to you when you have the power to change your situation. What you will allow, will damn sure continue and if you aren't taking the necessary steps to allow his ass to get the bigger picture that YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED IN HIM...he will continue to call and text you day in and day out and you will continue to be annoyed, day in and day out. More importantly fellas...man up! Stop ignoring the signs, tryna bypass to the ass when she wouldn't spit on you even if you were on fire! Not only do you make yourself look bad, but you put her in a position to where she'll become even more skeptical about any dude for the future. If she's interested in you, you will know, I mean, Jehovah Witnesses knock on your door faithfully right? Don't be a Jehovah Witness...knock on a door that will be receptive of what you tryna say. If you take nothing from what I've said, take this

Please, leave her, the, f***alone!

Ladies: what are some of the other signs that men often miss? What has worked for you when you've had a "Jehovah Witness" kinda dude who just wouldn't take the hint?
Fellas: have you ever been in this kinda situation? Let me know, let me know!

@renaissance_brotha_

B.A.D.

*cracks neck*

I know what you're thinking, "what does B.A.D. mean!?"
Well, B.A.D. = bitch ass dude(s)

That's right: B**** ASS DUDES!

Now if you already knew that, kudos to you and if you didn't, you just learned something new; and learning is only HALF the battle...
but oh how I wish I could say that about some of you dudes out there!

In 2013, some of you dudes STILL ain't winning, but you want us to believe that you are? Get ALLLL the way the f*** outta here with that; ain't nobody got time fa dat! I've lost respect for you dudes, why? Because you've become just like the women you often talk about, (re)tweet about, slander on FB, and make sub post about on Instagram. Gossiping and spreading rumors?!?! That's what females do! S*** like that is never cool! I Hope this entire blog gets texted/emailed/retweeted/reposted to you!

(peep how I just flowed there)

But I digress,

But on a serious note, it's gotten to the point where women have come to me and begged me to write a blog on the fact that: at times, their man makes them feel like they're in a "same sex" relationship/marriage. The behavior a lot of you "so called men" display has gotten to a point where women are saying, "enough is enough already...MAN UP!" This goes for Blacks, Asians, Latinos, Middle Eastern, Whites, Jews, Christians, Catholics, Muslims, Atheist, fat, skinny, tall, short, old, young, middle aged, educated, stupid, from the dude with a career, to the dude who sells weed and works at Rite Aid: ALL OF YOU NEED TO STEP IT THE F*** UP! If it sounds like I'm being too critical, good. If it sounds like I'm judging, good, glad we're on the same page. A lot of you dudes don't know better, so you can't do better, because you haven't learned better, because no one has taken the time to properly SHOW you just what better IS! I don't speak for all men, let's get that clear. I'm not speaking up for all the women of the world, let's make that clear as well. This comes from a place of self realization and what I've realized as I've gotten older: I ain't shit and we NEED to do better...so peep the piece I'm presenting.
*class is in session*

I don't blog to bash, I blog to help and offer a different perspective from a man who has been thru some s*** in his life. What we as men need to know and thoroughly realize, is that as we get older, we need to DO better. The ways of when we we're younger, shouldn't be continued in our mid 20s and older. One of the things I love about my circle of male friends is that, we hold each other accountable for our words and actions. What that means is: if someone is f***in up in the group, you better believe it'll be brought to your attention. Nobody is going to make a subliminal diss song, no talking behind each other's back, no silent treatment, none of that; straight up and down man to man convo. In blackand white: if you have an issue, you bring it to THAT person; not his mama, sister, brother, uncle, GF (BF if he swings that way), aunt, grandmama, Twitter. Instagram, FB, his dentist, doctor...you get the point. Now that same mindset, this should be applied to friendships that transition into relationships and relationships that transition into marriages between male & females but...that'll be discussed in my book coming out next year.

Fellas...stop the gossiping, pillow talking, dry snitching, cockblockin, subliminal messages:

It's gotten to the point where men call other men up or text or whatever and have full blown discussions about what OTHER men are doing: WTF!? Unless you on some, "we bout to move out on these n****s," type sh*t, talking about another man should never and I mean never be discussed in such a hateful/disrespect manner (unless y'all got beef). Another bad habit some of you dudes got, is that you suffer from "faucet mouth":

"Nah, the f*** wit him, he no good for you! You still f***in with J from your job? You know he f***in Michelle right?"
or
"Yea, I know Robbie: he the dude who got the baby mother who live in New Jersey, that he f*** every other week when he not f***in you. He corny! How you drop outta school and start credit card scamming?! Oh...you ain't know that? Yea, he lame."

...once your mouth gets turned on, you keep goin and goin and goin and goin. That's dry snitchin and where I'm from, dry snitchin isn't something grown men take lightly. After sex, don't lay around and talk her head off about why she shouldn't give another dude a chance you don't even know ESPECIALLY when she put up with your wack sex ass; get some juice, stretch, and prepare for round 2! Also, stop with the cockblockin! If you can't get p**** in a Earth this big, you worthless kid, and you don't deserve to live (joking, but not really).

Fellas...know when to displace your feelings and emotions:

Instagram, Twitter, FB are NOT your damn diaries! Being too sensitive is a sign of weakness. I'm not saying you can't express how you feel, but there's a time and a place for all of that and on social networks...it's not the place nor the time (in my opinion). You think women are looking at what you post like, "awww, he's so sweet, bendito"? No! They're looking at you like, "if this dude don't man up with his b**** ass!" No woman wants to be with a man who is more feminine than she is, period point blank. You get on Instagram and post some sh*t about how "all women aint sh*t but hoes," nahhh cat daddy, all YOUR women ain't sh*t but hoes! What you don't see by doing that is- women who begin to come to the conclusion like, "damn, why he so sensitive? All because I didn't answer his comment back or give him my number?" That right there, is something that's discussed every & any where, with all her friends, and if you think she's not screenshottin ya sh*t and talking about it with her homegirls...hahaha, wooo!

Fellas...stop with hate:

Listen and listen good: there's a difference between being hated on and being disliked. Being hated on...well, if you're familiar with the movie Belly, the part where Nas & DMX are riding thru the neighborhood and ol' boy is eating a banana and says, "Might have to drop a dime on them n****s...I don't like that sh*t...I don't like that sh*t." THAT, that's hate! Being disliked is when I actually know yo monkey ass and you've done sh*t to make me wanna put you in a headlock and toss you head first in a kiddie pool filled with crabs and roaches. You will never see a dude who is educated, hate on another man, why? Because he's too focused on progressing. What you WILL see, is a dude who ain't about sh*t, because he ain't amount to shit, so, he's mad at the fact that you're successful. "He think he fly cause he got them Js on...everybody got them Js!" (but he don't got them) or "that n**** ain't ballin like Meek Mill or Fabolous tho...that's why he pushin that 03 Benz still!" (he taking the bus and train with me every damn day). How you mad at the next man for creating and taking opportunities to better himself tho? And speaking of bettering...

Fellas...stop with the "crab in the bucket" sh*t:

Now if you're unfamiliar with what that means, allow me to explain: if you put some crabs in a bucket, you never have to worry about any escaping because if one looks like he's going to climb out...the others will grab its leg and pull his lil ambitious ass back in! I personally hate the fact that as a man, another man can't be successful without another man trying to pull that man down in some form or fashion. This applies for any race, color, creed, and religion too. I'm not saying you have to be "happy go lucky" for the next man, but there's already added outside pressure on him from other races and women on TOP of the hate you dishin out!

"So if I hang with dudes who ain't about nothin, I ain't nothin too?" - student in the back, far left

In a sense, yes. If you surround yourself with individuals who aren't about progression, you will succumb to that, guaranteed! Dudes have this bad habit of hatin on their own friends instead of celebrating their success and get mad when that friend begins to move away from him. All hate is: someone who admires whatever is that you do (what you're about) and can't duplicate that for themselves. There's this song by Common - "Black, Maybe" listen to it.

Fellas...stop purposely fucking up in relationships:

I will admit: I am part to blame for why I am not in a relationship today. It takes a man to admit his wrong doings and own up to them and seek forgiveness...but straight up and down: you're a bitch if you sabotage your relationship and then put all the blame on your woman like you ain't have a hand in why ya'll ended. You can't expect her to stay faithful, if you're cheating. You can't expect her to stay quite, when all you do is yell. You can't expect her to stay, if you're verbally and/or physically abusive. I was raised without a mother, so at times, I say my pops do some wrong shit and guess what? I grew up to do the same sh*t! We learn from our father's actions and words or the lack thereof. We learn indirectly or directly on how a woman is suppose to be treated. Yes, a woman can raise a man but...it takes a man to show a boy HOW a man is suppose to conduct himself. If you as a man get into a relationship and you know you're gonna want more than one chick to sleep with, stay single. If you know you're not ready to commit, let her know that, don't string her along. The problem isn't that she's crazy (although some of y'all are)...it's us as men doing sh*t to drive her crazy and get mad when she flips the f*** out! All women aren't the same; Cynthia isn't a loud mouth and a bitter b**** like Brandy is and Brandy isn't insecure and heartless, like Cynthia. The more you hurt her, the more conditioned she becomes in believing that men ain't s*** and that Shakira looks more and more attractive each day. You might not wanna hear this fellas but: how you gon look your daughter in the eyes when lil Leo hurt her heart the same way you did her mother... something to consider. Relationships can not and will never be able to stand the test of times, if the foundation is built on lies. I know gettin sex is cool and all but at what point do we look in ourselves and say, "you know what, I think I wanna settle down with Brandy, and build with her!"?

Fellas...we need to do B-E-T-T-E-R!

Dr. MLK Jr. had a dream...y'all dumb-d***heads turned it into a damn nightmare! I'm saying this to challenge you to do better, hell, to want better! F***in them same girls/women/bitches who ain't about sh*t will grow tired and then what? "Ima go stay with moms and stack money?!" Nahhh, because moms enjoys walking around the house, ass naked, watching Golden Girls, while ya pops massages her down in lotion...or, my lil ass will be over there watching bootleg movies, eating up all the chips n' dip! The reality is that as we get older, women look to younger dudes who have promise and potential, not dudes around her age who still lookin to have sex with her and her best friend or who haven't figured out what it is that they want to make of themselves. I'm 26, and I've figured out that at the end of the day, when it's all said and done; ima want someone to watch Golden Girls with and eat apple pie. The problem with us men is that there isn't enough male accountability. Holding each other accountable for our actions, needs to happen more. I'm not saying tattle-tale on your homie, I'm saying bring the man to the side or have an intervention with him because what you don't want is

...your homie eating all your food, drinkin up all the juice, not flushing the toilet, leaving dishes in yo sink, asking you for money, while living on your couch.

Education is key fellas and not just book knowledge: knowledge of self. Be the kind of man that you would want your daughter to date and marry. Blame Kendrick Lamar for this! This was long overdue fellas and real sh*t, I'm here as a man telling...there's more to life than Jordans, side chicks, drugs, and all that crazy stuff. I still have ways to go but, at least I'm on the road...are you? Let's build our kingdoms and become KINGS...leave that peasant life alone.

@renaissance_brotha_

LionCheetah

I am a man that is flawed. I speak, from experience. Life, has taught me a great deal. I will never profess to be a man that knows all, just a man who has been thru a lot and has learned a lot more from life and its experiences. This blog is a reflection of growth and maturity as a MAN; not that of a man who "thinks he knows everything."

*class is in session*


There are many reasons as to why relationships end:

•cheating•lying•stability•trust

among other things. LionCheetah simply means: lying-cheater - two of the biggest reasons why WOMEN, decide to throw in the towel. The following explains other reasons why women leave men.

babe...babe...BABE!!!
What I've Learned...is that women CRAVE attention, especially from their man! They love it when you notice things that they've done, for example: change in hairstyle, eyebrows touched up, fresh mani/pedi, cleaning, the time & effort she took to cook something YOU like, when that's NOT her expertise, and so on and so forth. Many times we overlook these things, but the more YOU overlook them, the MORE she'll be looking to someone else who will notice. Sometimes, she just wants you to listen to her talk and maybe input here and there; communication is key! She notices the lack of communication, you better believe she'll communicate to someone who isn't so lackluster and actually gives a damn. If you don't want to continuously give her the wrong impression, you better give her that love & affection or live with the fact that another man will.

"I'm feeling really un-ap-preci-aaated"
What I've Learned...is that you should never and I mean NEVER take the one you love for granted nor should you make her feel unappreciated by YOUR actions and words! If you have a woman who is willing to do for you before she even considers herself; she's a keeper! I've said this in other blogs but I feel like this needs to be said on a continuing basis: it's the lil things that matter the most! What you don't see: is all the stuff she does for you while IN the relationship. What you do see (after the two of you are broken up): is all the stuff she DID for you, while IN the relationship. Don't wait till it's too late to recognize/realize what she does for you. What Drake say, "Better late than never, but never late is better,"...and I know how you dudes LOVE quoting rap lyrics; so take heed to that. Learn to love the one you're with or live to learn from the one you had.

"Why you gotta lie to me?":
What I've Learned...is that back in the day, Toni Braxton was right as a motherf**** ! Lying will get you nowhere fast but with a bottle of lotion, tissues for your "issues", and old scenes of porn stars f***ing the life outta each other for hours. Let me be the first to tell you: a relationship can't stand the test of time if the foundation is built on lies. If she can't trust your word as her man...what kinda man are you? Fellas: without trust, you don't have much of a relationship. When you think about why most friendships fall apart among men, you look at that fact that men value honesty MOST among each other. Now, when you think about relationships and why they fall apart between men and women: it's because someone isn't being honest (I won't gender specify). Honesty is the anchor in a relation-SHIP, and if we as men can't be TRUSTED to be HONEST with the woman in our lives...we shouldn't expect her to stick around.

"I should have cheeeeaaa-ted"
What I've Learned...is that Keyshia Cole had women wanting to cheat like a motherf****! Cheating tends to happen for many reasons and one of the main reasons WHY it happens...is because something isn't right (goes wrong) in the relationship. And what do we as men tend to do? Find something that IS right, in between the legs of the WRONG person! Once again: this is where communication comes into play and why it's soooo very important to communicate with your partner. When your woman finds out about your indiscretions, the bridge you've built to get to her, becomes damaged. That same bridge that was ever-so pretty to cross, is fragile to the touch. All the "sorrys" won't work and all the candy/flowers can't help. If you have a problem, LET IT BE KNOWN!

Emotional Rollercoaster:
What I've Learned...is that an emotional disconnect in the relationship happens more times than we even know it. We as men tend to deal with emotions different, from that of a woman:

•smoke/drink
•play video games•hit the strip club•drive around and listen to music•punch a wall•hit the gym

We are taught as men that we shouldn't cry when something is the matter; women are taught differently. I'm not saying you should cry when she doesn't want to give you the ass when you want it, I'm saying don't run ya silly ass out and cheat because she won't give you the ass! Support, support, SUPPORT! She needs to feel needed, loved, and have that emotional connection with you so that she can feel safe and secure and more importantly, comfortable enough to share. If you can't be the one she leans on...she (hand clap) will (hand clap) find (hand clap) companionship (hand clap) elsewhere, plain and simple.

"Sex ain't better than looveee..."
What I've Learned...is that love conquers a lot (not all, contrary to popular belief). Sex is cool, don't get me wrong, but it isn't everything. Sometimes, she doesn't want you to come over (vice versa) and have you hump away at her. Sometimes, she just wants to cuddle...and then maybe you hump away at her. Seriously, there's this word that many men are unfamiliar with and it's called *intimacy*. Sometimes, you'll have to make love to mind and not her body. Sometimes, you'll have to make her soul feel like everything before you never mattered because you're the only she wants NOW! Take it from me: the more she grows unsatisfied with your lack of intimacy, the less...well, you get the picture.

Gri-ming (grind + timing):What I've Learned...is that women love when you make time for them and respect you even more when you're on your grind (one who is driven; ambitious). We spend all this time trying to get her to see us for who we are and what we're about and after we get her...we tend to fall off. We put "hanging out with the boys," over "dinner for two" and that right there, is a no no. I'm not saying neglect your friends altogether, but know there's a time to chill with them and a time to chill with her and the prior should never come before the latter. Spending time is important because you continue to build upon the foundation you've created. What happens in relationships is that, we as men work our asses off to get the woman we want and then we slack. We don't maintain our appearance (women are guilty of this too), we don't go out as often (guilty myself), and we tend to allow her to pick up the slack (guilty myself). Now on the other hand, you know how sexy drive is to a woman! My friend once told me, "if I didn't have a BF, I would be with you because you're always pushing yourself to do better...unlike this lazy mother(SHUTYOMOUTH)!" One of the main reasons Michelle stayed with Barack was because she saw the potential in him. If we as men are ambitious about buying materialistic things, we should be even MORE driven to further our education and/or progress in our career goals. She'll love you for your ambition...or leave you for you lack of.

You ain't s*** with me and you ain't gon be s*** without me:What I've Learned...is that verbal and physical abuse is never the answer. I've never put my hands on a woman but verbally...I've been a monster!!! It's not something I'm proud of but when you're angry, those very words that you suppress, become your weapons of mass destruction! Any man that puts his hands on a woman, is a coward. Any man that talks, before he thinks, is a man who hasn't learned that the tongue is as mighty as a sword. No woman should put up with any kinda abuse, period but know this ladies: what you will allow, will continue.

Communication is key! I will continue to say that in every relationship piece I post because it is valuable and critical! If you as a woman are stuck between a rock and a hard place; talk things out. If he's not with the talking, the relationship isn't for you. The point I'm trying to make is that you should do everything on YOUR end to make sure the relationship is working and if that isn't happening, after some time...maybe with him, is not where you want to be. If he ain't gon love you, the way he should, let him gooooo.

@renaissance_brotha_

So I Have This Friend: Whose GF Can't Ride...

Names have been changed, but the story remains the same.

Nick: "But deadass Ant...this b**** can't ride d*** for the life of her!!!"
Me: "Bro...tell her how you want it to be done!"Nick: "If only it were that EASY bro, it's not. We went for a bike ride the other day and this b**** was like Meek Mill & his boys on a damn CitiBike...a CITIBIKE!"Me: "Wait, you went, YA'LL went for a bike ride? (insert hard laughing)"Nick: "You mad cause you ain't got no b**** to ride WITH! But deadass boy, she can't ride d***, what should I do?? I know you be writing blogs for these b****es, write one for me fam!"

So I Have This Friend...whose girl can't ride d***!

First and foremost...

DID YOU MISS MEEE!?!?

No? Oh...ok, I digress, but before I start:

Warning: If you are a friend and/or a family member and you MIGHT feel a tad bit uncomfortable with reading/hearing me talking about sex; this blog ain't fo yo ass.

#TURNUP

A lot of you women are out here throwing dirt on guys who can't seem to get it together in the bedroom and for that...may the Lord take vengeance upon thee! Are (some) men garbage in bed? Yes, yes SOME are, but there's a whole lot of them who are NOT (and this blog ain't for them). My boy isn't the only man to feel this way, hell, I've had a few ladies who couldn't ride a d*** but could "drop down and get their eagle on" and hit the electric slide at the drop of a dime! Some of you chicks be like, "Babe, I can't ride, can we just do doggy?" No, not now. Or, "Babe, I've never really...I mean, I don't normally do this (while climbing on top)," well, I've never been to Six Flags, but you gon ride this roller coaster! I know you're laughing while reading this, but how some of y'all claiming to be #BedroomBullies...and can't ride a d***?! That s*** puzzles me! So, here at #ABetterBreedOfMan, I wanna help you ladies get in touch with your...inner, freak if you will. I present to you: how to ride the D SO good, yo mama's mama...would be proud!

Yo Nick, you owe me bro because I'm sure your girl will be reading this!

*class is in session*

Some of you beautiful, intelligent, sexy women are reading this and can identify with the topic: you can't ride d*** well! And that's cool, dot worry boo, I got yoouuu! If you have a man, don't be afraid to practice on him, that's what he's there for; what is he gonna say, no? No man will turn down p****! "I ain't afraid of no man or no d***!" yea yea, I know: that's why you can't ride d***? What's that old saying, "practice makes perfect"? Well, you better lay his ass down, and climb on top, and ride him like a Low-Ridah out in Cali! Something to always keep in mind (and this is with anything): you can’t get better at something if you’re scared to fail. When you tell someone you haven’t done something before, that statement should then be accompanied by you trying. You don’t say you haven’t done something and continue not to do it; without trying you’ll never learn. I'm not suggesting ANY one of you ladies go out here, and have sex with just ol' any guy, just so you can practice...that sh*t ain't cool nor is it attractive. Now Nick, if Amanda comes to you and says, "let's f***! I know you like me being on top so I want to trying something new", strip down to your socks and enjoy the ride my brotha!

Secondly ladies

In order to feel comfortable pleasing your man, you have to be able to please yourself first and him, SECOND! It's just like in life: in order to be selfless, you have to be a lil selfish; so selfishly pleasure yourself with toys me or fingers all you want! There's not a dude out here that won't appreciate you jumping on top and riding him like that mechanical bull at your local bar. If you want to get your nut off and not worry about Minute-Man Mark, go for it. Ladies, in plain English: I want you to do all the nasty sh*t you do in your alone time, when no one is watching, to your man! Make it so nasty, you'll have to pray EXTRA, in church on Sunday (y'all don't hear me tho)! It's not the Mark and Laura show, oh no, it's the Laura Show, co-starring Mark...and his d***. However once you get to that point, learn what pleases him. Who knows you might actually like what he likes and can start killing two birds(freaks) with one stone(move). Dudes like Nick, complain about women that get on top only to please themselves and that’s just selfish; if you want to be a skilled rider you have to learn how to do both. Don't trip tho, I got some techniques that'll have you riding like Ciara (pun all the way intended).

baby grind on meeee! (Pretty Ricky voice)

Remember them guys? Well, if you don't, YouTube them but if you do, ladies: I want you to grind like you're at a high school party! There's not a woman reading this who doesn't enjoy grinding her warm, wet, tight, (meow), and rubbing her clit at the same time until they achieve orgasm. Work them hips, lose some of those calories, and dig your fingers into his chest...not too rough tho! Most guys aren't cumming from grinding, but from friction, there's a difference. Men need to be stroked to achieve orgasm, which grinding can limit.

b-b-b-bounce that p**** and shake dat ass

You know what turns a man on with the quickness, other than you dropping to your knees and putting his d*** in your mouth: watching and feeling you bounce on top of him. The woman who can push a man on his back, climb on top, and f*** him till he has no more energy in his tank...is a keeper! Women that bounce on the d*** usually know exactly what they’re doing and they ride with purpose. You're not worried about the fact that you just got your hair done, noooo. You're not worried about the fact that, you have work in a couple hours, noooo. You're worried about pleasing yourself, because he will be led to believe, you're really doing it for him; which sometimes is never the case (I be knowin ladies). That bounce action is cool for the dudes who enjoy having the breast in their face (like me) or who enjoy watching the ass go up...and down...and up...and down in the Reverse Cowgirl position AND who enjoy smackin that ass while you're at it (I be knowin ladies).

...you got the juice now (insert your name here ladies

I know what you're thinking: what the hell is this fool talking about now! Well, it doesn't mean "juicing" like combining fruits and veggies and sh*t; it simply means to pull and squeeze at the same damn time! Some of y'all (women) don’t know about juicing, but just think about grinding for a second. Grinding is the rubbing of two surfaces to cause friction. However, juicing is when you squeeze AND pull away from him to cause the friction. It’s basically like you’re trying to squeeze and ring him out (kinda like a wash cloth). I want you to squeeze his d*** with your vagina and just look him in the face while you're doing it; I guarantee you he will speed up his pumping, which will make him cum like that! The best position to do this in, is in Reverse Cowgirl...

and speaking OF Reverse Cowgril...

Men like when you ride it...facing the other way! When you climb on top, ride it for a lil bit facing him and then, turn around and: MAKE SURE YOU KEEP THE D*** INSIDE OF YOU (I can't stress that enough)! Place his hands around your waist, and continue with what you were doing. You can lick your nipples if you want, massage your clit while he slaps your ass, hell, you can even fantasize about someone else. It’s just better suited for two people to please one another, yet have the privacy they want while having sex as weird as that may sound.

One time, a friend of mine said, "when I get on top, he does whatever we wants, it's like, I don't have no control of the situation." My answer to that: f*ck him back. Put his hands inside of yours, pin them down, and f*** him until he cums, that simple. A lot of women are quick to say men are intimidated by them but become intimidated by men, in the bedroom: the irony. Here's something you can try: to make you feel a lil more at ease, make him put his hands behind his head, tell him to keep put, and go to work...men like taking orders n' s***.

Lastly,

I spoke about this in the paragraph before last but once again (because it's really that important): don't let the d*** slip out! Now before you start going off and dismiss miss this piece of info, consider this:

size matters! I don't care what any one of you have to say, size matters. Now, with that being said (Kevin Hart voice), it's up you take a peek at the pole he's packing and make sure it doesn't come out! If you have control and I mean COMPLETE control over your body/abilities...the d*** can never and I mean never come out, period-point-blank.

Nick, make her feel comfortable at all times; sex isn't just about catching a nut or two and rolling over and knocking out, it's way deeper than that, it's brackets to this s***. There's levels to this sh*t, and while that may be a line from Meek Mill, it's true in every sense! If you want to give some advice, simply just express how you feel when the two of you are most comfortable and laugh n' sh*t like that, this way, it comes across a lot better.


If you need anything else, holla at me!

Ladies: have you ever felt embarrassed when you got on top? Did you get better? What advice could you offer other women about riding better? Did this post miss anything?

@renaissance_brotha_